50/50 custody

[Cantbearsed73]

Hello all . I'm looking for some advice please. I am divorced and have two children who are 6 and 12. My exh lives about 60 miles away . Our current arrangement is every other weekend and he comes to see them one night in the week, it used to be an over nighter but they were frequently late for schooll stuck in traffic etc. He also often changes the night he comes or doesn't turn up at all. I haven't had any maintenance for quite some time , when I ask for it , he threatens 50 /50 custody. He is quite a bully and has the ability to intimidate me. Any advice on a how to handle this and also whether he would have a chance of 50/50 ? ( just to say I am not against 50/50 when there is good communication and parents live close- but I just can't see how this could work. Your advice would be welcome . Thank you

Can’t see how he could have 50/50 if he lives 60 miles away, he couldn’t get them to school for instance or to any clubs etc.
Sounds like he’s bluffing so he doesn’t have to pay any maintenance.
I’d put in a claim to csm don’t let him bully you.

Just put a CMS claim in, let them deal with it.

Thanks. The problem is he is self-employed and has his own company. I think he will fix it so he pays himself a really low wage .

Did he move 60 miles away after divorce? Did he always want 50/50 or is he just asking it now?

Hi he moved away about the time of divorce. He has never asked for 50/50 before he only mentions it when he can't or won't pay maintenance. We have had the same arrangements for about 5 years now