Bit of a pity party. I divorced 3 years ago and have 3 children aged 5, 8 and 10. Up until the last few months I've been relatively ok. I have a few friends I choose to spend time with and that's ok. But recently the friends all seem busy, and rarely factor me in. I asked one friend what she was doing on Saturday with the nice weather and she said she was off to the pub to sit in the beer garden, I wished her well and went back to sitting on my own.
I'm still single. I've had a couple of dates and a couple of failed dating/relationships since the divorce. For the past few months I've felt like I'm sinking. I work full time, have very little down time and by time kids go to bed and I've sorted their next day stuff it's 10pm. I can't get on top of the house, between work, kids, more work in evenings I barely have time to relax let alone sort the washing, put it away etc.
I mentioned this to my mum earlier and she said she could help and would put some washing away for me, during the week...if I paid her £80 a month 😔 I already pay her to have the kids two nights a week for me. I just feel heartbroken that the only way I can get people to help me is if I pay them, even my own mum.
I'm also doing a house extension and my builder has done a number on me. He currently owes me around £5k and no longer turns up, it's costing me another £8k with a different builder to get it finished. I'm putting myself into debt to do it and my mum knows all this.
I guess I just feel so completely alone and don't know how to stop myself sinking even further.