MIL help - send help - any help

[CrazyCatLady159]

Have never been with ex partner since DD was born, I left him when 6 months pregnant.
He has court ordered contact for 6 hours every other weekend

I have been meeting with ex MIL for her to see DD for over 8 months.
On Monday she has pushed me too far with what she says to me .... she has said that it's my fault her son doesn't see DD, that he shouldn't pay his CSA arrears, that I'm a liar and that I should be grateful that she wants to see DD. And how her son won't take DD to see her when he has DD every other weekend.

Can anyone give me any ideas or ways to get her out my life. Currently going through the court process, again, and they are aware I meet her with once a week.
I don't want it to appear like I am being spiteful however my mental health cannot take her over-bearing, opinionated views and blaming me for her sons lack of dedication to our DD

I've got a mil line that. As far as I'm aware you don't have to a think, it's in your ex for him to arrange contact between DD and mil. He has us 6 hours due, let him use that.
I only skim read but this should give you an idea

www.gransnet.com/grandparenting/contact-rights

No legal rights.

Have a think what would be good for you and your MH, it's important that you get that right for you and dd. From what you said, mil ain't good for you. And issiu ds like she bullying on behalf of your ex.

Talk to your GP and tell them what's going on.

Have you got legal support with the court things going on. I would ask them for advice.

Otherwise put boundaries in place. Reduce contact to once a month at tea shop for an hour. If she says spiteful things just up and leave. And say you don't want to be spoke to in that way. You are going above and beyond to have contact with her. And she knows it.

Or take someone with you at contact. A friend or family member.

I thought I was doing the right thing but she is continuously pushing me and this week was the final straw for me I think.

@disneyspendingmoney
@eve34 you're both right; seeing it written down from an outsiders perspective I feel so stupid knowing that I could have stopped this ages ago.

I'm going to tell her that she can see dd when she's with her dad - like my parents have to see her when she's with me ...
I can see the argument she'll put forwards with this anyway but I can always block the calls and not answer my door if she shows up I guess

It isn't easy. I'm sure you want dd to have a relationship with her. But she has behaved badly and thrown it back in your face.

You have tried your best. Hold your head high and do the right thing for you now.