Mediation

[scissorhands]

my partner is living between his mothers, friends and sisters house hes a brilliant worker and brilliant dad the only thing is hes struggling to have his children due to shift work and nowhere really to have them stay as it gets to much for his mother. His ex has now taken things to the mediation and he is so worried I have offered to let them stay with me and my daughter when my partner finishes his night shift fri to sun it will either be once a month or twice a month pending on how many weeks In the month, also over school holidays he will have them a little more, hes now panicking that this wont be good enough but it's the best he can do until he can either afford his own place or move in with me.. I am just wondering has anyone else been in this situation?

I havent but basically what you are proposing is blended familyl almost?

have you met his kids? how long have youbeen with him for?

I would treat this as if you are ready to blend your families together - if not then iwouldnt even go there.

I haven't been in your position but if you are comfortable to have his DC and your DP staying with you that sounds like a step forward for him to have more contact with them.

2 and a half years. Yeah I have met his kids when he sees them every other weekend but its nots working out due to work shifts and when he has to owe hours back on weekends. They enjoy there time with there father, me and my dd

What isn't working out?

The are 3 dc plus my dd me and my dp.. unfortunately I can not offer to have them stay any longer as I have my sister and her dc living with me but she will go elsewhere if necessary.. it's a small 3 bed house. He also has no transport apart from bus train or taxi or myself who helps and an autistic son who can be quite difficult to handle around public transport. He has and always will pay child maintenance. When ever he sees them we make is as fun as possible to have these memories and we have treat days. He honestly does everything for his dc. It's just his current situation has made things hard. Yes his ex had an affair and left him in alot of debt due to him not being able to afford his own place just yet and am unable to take him on right now but these fri to sun weekends plus more days when he is on shutdown and dc are off school is all he can do just now

Has he spoke to social services? As far as im aware they would be able to help him especially due to the fact the child has Autism. Also, has your DP had any legal advice off a family solicitor?