Shared parenting schedule

[Mumao]

Hi everyone, after some advice with parenting schedule between me and ex and our almost 3yr old dd.

Ex has been having dd from Thursday at 4pm until Sunday morning.

Dd childcare has been a mix of my mum looking after dd at my house, nursery and myself.

For context, her week goes like this:

Monday and Tuesday morning nursery. Collected 2pm each day by DM and taken to my house. I am home by 4pm. Overnight with me.

Wednesday my house with DM from 7.30 am. I am home by 2.30pm. Overnight with me.

Thursday morning nursery collected by DM and taken to my house. Collected by ex at 4pm. Overnight with ex.

Friday nursery until 4.30 pm collected by ex and overnight with him.

Saturday overnight with ex and collected by me Sunday 10am. Sunday overnight with me.

So that's a block of four nights with me and block of three with ex.

The reason we have chosen this schedule is that we didn't want dd to be going between nursery, my house and ex's house too much. When dd is with DM at my house I would rather dd stay overnight with me so there isn't too much back and forth.

Ex is now saying that he wants every other Saturday without DD and would like to have her on the Sunday that week instead.

I get that he wants a weekend night to himself but I think coming back to me for one night and then back to him for one night is too confusing?

I have said that he could have every other Saturday night 'off' but can't have dd on the Sunday. Aibu? Am I being too over protective? Is there a better way to work the schedule that isn't so unsettling?

Thanks and sorry if the post is long and confusing!

Could he do one week returns to you , Saturday morning then following week he takes her to Nursery Monday?

Is it a year September till school because it may well be looking at forward planning at this point too as eow each would give you both free time and quality time with dd?

@Starlight456 so one week he'd have her Thursday and Friday then the next Thursday through to drop off at nursery on Monday?

Yes, a year in sept to school so would make sense to forward plan.

Yes or some sort of combination of that

I don't think it's unreasonable to do every other full weekend each - one day every weekend isn't great for either you or him making alternative plans. He also may want a night out (Fri and Sat being the usual night out days) and prefer not to then put dd into childcare.

Id suggest dd with Week 1 - Thurs pm to Sun pm, Week 2 - Thurs PM to Sat am. I'd not do the fuss of her then going back the Sunday.

In the current schedule I can’t see where you get a full day with her to have fun together. If she comes back to you on the Saturday night I think she should then stay with you as it would be confusing to go back and it then gives you a full day with her.

Oh sorry I see you do have Sunday from 10am, yes don’t then send her back. Surely if she comes back on a Saturday at 6pm or so he’s not missing that much