Father’s Day

[Starships9089]

What do I buy my ex for father’s day off of our daughter. He hasn’t even asked to see her on the day so I don’t even know why I bother.
Me and my baby’s dad split 2 years ago and we are on ok terms. I never get anything from him (from our daughter) for birthday or mother’s day but I always have done for him. I always seem to buy the same kind of stuff each year.. a handmade card, photo frame and a cup/glass. I don’t want to spend a fortune but I need some ideas of what to get.

Are you sure you want to bother. Not sure I would tbh

I don’t. My ex can’t be bothered to see ds on Father’s Day so he doesn’t deserve anything.

I’m doing it for my daughters sake, she’s at an age where she kind of understands and she loves her dad 😊

Is she an age where she can choose? You could take her to a supermarket or something and get her to pick a token gift like a Dad mug.

I would simply get her to do a card.

Then she could post it . He gets it on the day. Sorted.

Yes if she can pick something small and help with a card that seems like the best idea. Don't put yourself out.

Well done for doing it. You're setting an important example for your daughter. My ex and I do not get on, but we still ensure the kids give something to the other on father's / mother's day. I second letting your daughter choose something

I’d give her a few pound and let her choose something, shower gel or whatever. Handmade card. Don’t put yourself out.
My DS is too young to understand Father’s Day but he’s scribbled on a card.

I've got my ex slippers, chocolate, beer and a beer glass. It's important to my kids.

I admire you for doing it for your daughter. I would however either have her draw a picture that you can post or get the cheapest one you can in card factory, let her draw in that and post that. You've made the effort, but it doesn't have to cost you much at all, and your daughter if she's little enough will be oblivious

Thank you for the replies. Took her out and she chose some socks, chocolate and body wash set. All cost under £10 she’s only 3 but she enjoyed choosing it

You are more generous that I am. I support dd to buy something as it is important to her. We always go for chocolate as dad likes toblarone. So not much cost or effort. But the thought is there and she has something to give him. It not returned. But I know I am a better person by making the effort.

I noticed quite a few Fathers Day cards in Card Factory that kids could colour in and ones where kids draw the front of the card which I thought was great for little ones.

a card will be fine .

This would be my card of choice:

All this teaches her that men get gifts and admiration for doing fuck all but fogging a mirror and that women/Mummies get nowt for doing everything else.

Honestly, if he doesn't bother with you, don't bother with him. The only lesson she'll become aware of as she get older and more aware is the above.

Sorry that probably sounds a bit harsh. But, really, you're wondering why you bother and say that he doesn't do any gifts for you but that you do this for her.

Put yourself ahead of him - for her.

I brought some fancy hotel du chocolate chocolates and a picnic blanket for him. The children are with him this weekend and so excited to give him tomorrow

I was going to say the same as pics. The message you send is women continue to fight for the attention of men in their lives when those men just cannot be arsed themselves. Please dont teach her such poor boundaries. He doesnt give a shit. Dont enable and chase.

has he is three years arranged a birthday party for her or similar? Like actually gone beyond the very basics of buying a card and present?

I’ve never got my ex anything for father’s Day.

He’s never been a father to them, no maintenance (14 years now), no contact for the last 2 years.