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hi, im new..

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xxLeannexx · 14/09/2004 21:22

Hi
my name is Leanne and im 20 years old. Im 26 weeks pregnant and lost my partner in an accident 10 weeks ago...ive jsut found this site and hope i will be able to meet other people in a similar situation
I miss him so much and the thought of being a single parent just makes things worse..ive never even held a baby before! i dont know anyone else who is expecting a baby and i lost contact with most of my friends when i started seeing my partner just over a year ago...hope you are all ok..

thanks for listening xx
Leanne

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Flik · 14/09/2004 21:27

Hi Leanne, welcome to mumsnet, I'm relativly new myself and have 2 dds age 4 and 17months. There are lots of people to talk to on here and it's a bit addictive. I'm sorry to hear about your partner, but having a baby is an amazing experience and it all comes together in the end, you will be fine im sure. Where are you from?

KateandtheGirls · 14/09/2004 21:29

Hi Leanne,

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. There are a lot of other single parents on this board, but as far as I know I am the only other widow.

I lost my husband 3 years ago on my oldest daughter's 2nd birthday when I was 11 weeks pregnant with my second. So I have some understanding of what you're going through. Please feel free to ask me anything.

Best wishes and welcome again.

tammybear · 14/09/2004 21:33

hi leanne, sorry to hear about your partner, but like flik says becoming a mum is a wonderful experience. it may seem very daunting but you will be fine, and will get lots of support from here. You can make lots of new friends through antenatal classes and post classes once the baby has arrived. Im 20, and my dd is 21 months old. Being a young mum does seem like a scary thought but there are a few of us on here. How have you been coping? xxx

beansmum · 14/09/2004 21:35

can't even begin to understand how you must feel right now but you'll always get loads of support here.

I was pg alone, although by choice, and also had no experience with babies but just loved ds from the minute i saw him and am enjoying being a mum so much.

good luck xx

JanH · 14/09/2004 21:36

Leanne, you poor love My second daughter is 19 and I can't imagine how she would cope with something like that. Mumsnet is great for providing support and someone to listen when you need it, I'm glad you have found it.

Where do you live? (Roughly, you don't need to be specific!)

MeanBean · 14/09/2004 21:51

Welcome Leanne, congratulations on your pregnancy, and so sorry to hear about your partner. Do go to all the prenatal groups you can, because you'll meet people there who will provide a support network that you'll need if your other friends have gone west. Having a baby quite often separates you off from your old friends who haven't been through motherhood and almost forces you to make friends with people who understand your new priorities.

spook · 14/09/2004 21:53

Hi Leanne. I am so sorry.What you must have been through doesn't bear thinking about. Stay with Mumsnet. It's full of wonderful lovely people and there is always someone around if you just need to talk. Lots of love X X X

Original poster
xxLeannexx · 14/09/2004 22:01

thankyou all for being so friendly, i live in kent-uk btw
Im really looking forward to being a mum, but its just easy to let all the bad thoughts get ontop of the good ones...it sounds stupid but i think the baby knows when im upset because it always kicks and moves when im feeling alone..to let me know that he/she is there-maybe its just a coincedence, but i dunno-just makes me feel special.. and i know i have to be strong because i have a little person growing inside me

thanks for listening

OP posts:
spook · 14/09/2004 22:02

You sound to me like you're going to be a gorgeous mum. That's a very lucky bump.

tammybear · 14/09/2004 22:05

agree with spook xxx

DelGirl · 14/09/2004 22:08

Hi Leanne and welcome to mumsnet. Like everyone has said so far, everyone is lovely on here and you'll get loads of support. I'm a widow too, lost my dh (husband) just over 2 years ago and now 9 weeks pregnant with his baby following treatment. If you need to 'chat' feel free to email me through contact another talker (above). I'm not on here much at the moment as suffering with horrendous sickness. Take care x

stupidgirl · 14/09/2004 22:59

Everyone else has said what I would have said, only much better than I could have. I'm 24 and single with a 6yr old and a 3.5yr old.

I hadn't had any experience with babies when I had my first. Trust your instincts, and keep coming back here - there;s loads of support and advice and general listening ears.

Do you have family around?

nightowl · 15/09/2004 01:06

Hi leanne, sorry to hear about your loss. i was pg alone too but not same circumstances. there are lots of caring people on here to support you. love to you and your baby xx

Turquoise · 15/09/2004 03:50

Hi Leanne. You sound like you're going to be a brilliant mum. I'm so sorry for your loss, you've got an awful lot to cope with at such a young age. But you'll get wonderful support on here, and there are very many inspirational lone parents, and loads of wise advice. I wish I'd found this website when I was pregnant. Welcome

anorak · 15/09/2004 08:41

Hi Leanne, so sorry to hear of your loss. Do plunge straight into mumsnet, it's a brilliant support network, full of strong, amazing women just like you xxx

Galaxy · 15/09/2004 11:55

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NomDePlume · 15/09/2004 12:04

Hi Leanne !

Welcome to MN

I'm so sorry about your DP (Darling Partner), everyone else is right about having kids and the support available here at all hours. Very best wishes. x

kirstyk · 15/09/2004 12:25

Hi Leanne
I am so sorry for your loss, sounds like you are gonna be a fantastic mum though! I can gaurantee that when your little one kicks when you are feeling low it's to tell you you're not on your own!! My little one does the same, i am single, through choice, but exp gives me hard time and when i get down i have little kicks to tell me i'm needed.
Glad you found this website and hope we can be of support to you. Being a young mum on your own takes an amazing show of courage you should be really proud of yourself, your little one is very lucky to have you!

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