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Lad86 · 31/05/2019 17:21

Hi am a single dad to a young boy,he sees his mum few times a week,she is an alcoholic and hasn't got much time left literally days/weeks.....we have been separated for a few years but still feel sad and don't know how to tell me son...is this normal???

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MamaOfBothTeams · 11/06/2019 18:45

So sorry for you and your son, you sound like a great dad though who will do whatever he can to support your son

endofthelinefinally · 12/06/2019 10:46

OP, I got some telephone counselling through Cruse that was helpful. You can google their contact details.

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Lad86 · 12/06/2019 11:46

Thank you very much everyone for your kind words and advice it's much appreciated and very helpful

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Lad86 · 19/08/2019 17:13

Hi everyone Not been on for a while,my son seems to be coping very well,but me on the other hand finding it extremely difficult to do day to day things and cry everyday still,people seem to have forgot about her but I cant and dont know what to do....any advice would be very helpful,,,its been 10 weeks since she left us and it still hurts just as much now as it did then

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burnyburny · 19/08/2019 18:31

Hi @Lad86

You must be doing well by your little boy, so be proud of yourself that he is managing as well as he is.

10 weeks is very early, so don't be thinking you should have passed some magical timeline by now. Perhaps you could contact Cruse? I'm sure my gran used them when my dad died. Maybe others will pop on with details of other organisations.

Bearing in mind that there may come a period when your wee one does struggle. It would be good for you to have someone to turn to to help you with that. Is he getting any counselling just now?

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Lad86 · 19/08/2019 23:00

I have actually sorted it for my sonHes actually seeing a lady from cruise at the moment,sees her once a week for an hour

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burnyburny · 20/08/2019 22:19

Hi @Lad86 That's great, well done.

Can't you speak to her and see if she can arrange similar for you?

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Lad86 · 20/08/2019 22:28

I would rather make sure all her time.and effort went into my son and try to help him as much as she can

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Bellecurves · 20/08/2019 22:39

Such a sad situation. You need to look after yourself too to take care of him. Take your time and don't pressure yourself to be back to normal.

whirlwinds · 20/08/2019 23:06

You need to take care of yourself as well, please seek help to deal with this situation and help you gain some balance in your life. This will benefit both you and your son.

Embracelife · 20/08/2019 23:11

Please seek help for you as well
It s there for you.

BedraggledBlitz · 20/08/2019 23:12

Hi @lad86 so sorry you are both going through this sad time. Just to echo what others have said, it's really important that you get support for you, doing so will help your son. X

user764329056 · 20/08/2019 23:15

I am so sorry for you and your little boy to be going through this xx

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Lad86 · 21/08/2019 08:09

I feel as though I will be putting on people and dont want anyone worrying about me,everyone around me seems to have forgotten about her and tells me too "man up" when I am having a off day and to think off all the bad times...just wish I had a time machine and could have done more then my son would still have his mum

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burnyburny · 21/08/2019 19:09

@Lad86 No, a time machine wouldn't have stopped this. I am not for one moment judging your ex when I say this, but if she couldn't get sober for her little boy, I very much there is anything that anyone else could have done. Sadly, that is the power her illness has on people.

I'm sorry people aren't supporting you. Telling you to man up is awful. Perhaps distance yourself from that and get some real support for yourself. People do these jobs because they want to help people exactly like you.

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