7 weeks pregant and the baby's father blocked all communication with me

[vcampbell90]

So I'm 29 I'm 7 weeks pregnant with my second child. The past year iv been seeing some1 on and off and I found out I was pregnant. I told him knowing he wouldn't take it very well and he has refused to be apart of anything and has blocked me on everything . He says he's totally fine with the situation and that il be doing this by myself . I never wanted to be raising another child by myself but looks like I'm going to be but I would like some advice on would I should do , do I leave him every1 keeps saying he'll come around, iv been tempted to contact his famliy to see if they would like to be involved when the baby's here I know iv got a long way to go but I don't think I understand how some1 can can walk away I probably sound like a phscyo right now but I feel lost and scared

Let him go, but not because he might change his mind, but because you and the baby deserve better than that. You need to plan your future as if he’s not going to be there and move on. Personally I’d wait to contact his family, as 7 weeks is very early, but maybe let his parents know once you have had a clear scan. They probably won’t be able to talk him into doing the right thing, but they might want to be grandparents and be involved with your baby, if that is something you are happy with. x

What you should do, once things have settled down a bit, is ensure that he contributes financially towards HIS child. Swanning off into the sunset and blithely telling you he wants nothing to do with either of you, and you're on your own, isn't an option I'm afraid.

Shitty behaviour from him, but no reason why you should shoulder all the financial implications on your own.

If necessary, keep in touch with his family so he can't fall off the radar and avoid the CMS.

I would contact his parents and give them the chance to be in your babies life. Sadly the father sounds like a selfish individual and though I would leave the door open for him to have a relationship with your child, it sounds like you had better be prepared to go it alone. Do contact cms as soon as your baby is born don't let him be financially negligent as well as emotionally.

Not yet, you should let the dust settle. You have no idea what your want in months to come or how your relationship with him may change.
It's a lot easier to say, you don't want to date him again and your let him or his family be involved but you don't know what will happen or how your actually feel.
The less you say or do will be better in the long run.
When you six months, and the baby is visible his parents maybe more opening, if not then that's their lost. What you don't want is the telling you to abort and then trying to be nice when the lo is here

I’m not sure he will come around. I continued a pregnancy against my exes wishes (bit different as we already have kids) and he decided he wanted nothing to do with me or them if I continued. It’s been 2 years now and we haven’t seen or heard from him. There’s a lot of absent fathers so they don’t all come round.

What an arsehole. Make sure you have all his details like address, date of birth etc so you can claim child maintenance from him when the baby is born. Don't tell him you're doing this otherwise he might look for ways to hide his income.

You don’t need to contact his parents at this point aa there is no baby for them to meet.

You need to plan if you are going to have this baby how you are going to do it on your own .

When baby is born you make sure baby has your surname . Contact cms .

Decide about his parents much nearer the time . Be aware one they will always put there child first . Do you actually even know them.