Hello. So, long story short, I have the final hearing over child contact order with manipulative ex very soon. He is very clever and always manages to stay under the radar, always an element of believability in his lies etc. He went on to our 3yo son’s ipad during contact with him and found my private photos and a few messages, which he is using against me (my bad - ipad now logged out of my icloud!). He has tried to make me look really bad in court, so I have had a social services section 7 report done on me which all seems fine. Kids are fine and happy despite me struggling since leaving him, especially with minimal maintenance even though he now claims he’s working. Anyway, some contact has been agreed already - half the school holidays and every other half term (ex is 500 miles away). But he has basically refused to take kids this coming half term, left me hanging for a straight answer, so I have had to arrange alternative childcare for them as I can’t take time off work and thought they were visiting him, as per the order. I contacted ex’s parents to say he has messed about (so they know it’s not me as ex has probably told them that). Ex’s dad replied saying ex has hospital operations that week but is unsure of dates.... so I’m worried that now he will be able to twist it in court in a couple of weeks and make out that I am the unreasonable one! Poor victim that he is with his trump card of illness (eyeroll).
So... how do I deal with this? Am I being unreasonable in the eyes of court for not waiting until the last minute for a straight answer from him about dates? If he’d have told me he was going into hospital I could have worked around it! Help please x