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single parents are men too

Oh but I doubt they do as much

#TROLL

Maybe, maybe not, But Im sure they do it better ;)

Why a troll? My Ex has 50/50 and pretty grateful I am for it too. I’m pretty sure I’ll be getting the kids to do something nice like he did for me on mother’s day.
Surely the kids come first. 🤷🏻‍♂️

It's just an odd goady thing to post. Quite obvious!

I guess it’s all down to perception.
Those of us with amicable relationships will automatically view it and think positively.
Others less favourably and therefore perceive it negatively.

Not many women can do "Amicable" unless it suits them, or it doesnt interfere with their lifestyle etc. I applaud the ones that do manage to put their kids first. Once they can get past the "I gave birth to them so they are mine" attitude, things would be so much better all round. I always provided cards and money for gifts for my kids to give to their mother on Mothers Day, as it made them feel happier. Sadly that is not happening in the reverse, but it would take a bigger person I guess

I can understand why a PP has found this post ‘goady’.

However I feel it is unfair to tar the majority of women with the same brush just because of your own situation. At the end of the day, both parents are capable of being shit and vindictive when it comes to parenting. Fortunately I hope the majority put their kids first and work together for their best interests.

My situation is on the other side. My DS dad chooses to have nothing to do with him, and when he was around he did absolutely nothing. And I mean nothing! He has made our lives exceptionally difficult.
He gave men a bad name, however I still live and raise my son to know there are decent men out there.

I am sorry for your situation, it cannot be easy at all. But please don’t tar us with the same brush. I have been on the side of when me as a mom hasn't been celebrated. So I make a point of celebrating it with my DS myself

OP, I don’t understand. What point are you making?

Currently my ex owes me over £6k in child support. Funnily enough I'm so keen on him. I always support the children to buy a card and small gift. Although this is not reciprocated either. But it is the right thing to do for the children. But yes. Women are all twisted and miserable 🙄

There are amazing mums out there and also amazing dad's. Likewise, there are useless dad's and mums! We shouldn't be fighting against each other we should be saluting all good parents and putting our children first. I do think the pendulum has swung so far in the fathers favour that if a mother dares speak bad about an ex partner they are classed as bitter. I'd like to think in future the parent who has invested the most time in the child and been the most positive role model and who has been there for the children is the one, who should have the biggest influence on the child's life. In an ideal scenario this would be both parents.

Not gonna lie. I'm a Dad with 50/50 care of my two daughters and an ex who was abusive & violent towards me, and still plays silly beggars on a regular basis. But I still found this post a bit odd. Mumsnet is riddled with posts from women that are barely-disguised invitations to man-bashing. Let's not start doing it the other way, too. There are great dads and crap dads. There are great mums and crap mums. Let's celebrate the good ones of both sexes, and not turn it into a men v women thing.

Couldn't agree more @slightly misplacedsingleddad!

@SlightlyMisplacedSingleDad its nice to see it from the other side too, so thank you.
We hear too much of women hating men or men hating women in these situations.
Though this thread hasn't had pages of responses, the response it has had has proven that there are great parents out there that despite their own tough situations dont carry around hate with them

barryfromclareisfit The point I am making is quite simple, Mothers day has passed and now Fathers Day is looming, this post is clearly to give some of the deadbeat mums an opportunity to realise that its not too late to change and put the kids first by giving them the means to gift or card or both to their dad this year...Even if its only one mum, at least one kid will be happier and a Father. Why is that so "Goady"? or Bait? NGC2017

@RUDIZZYBLUD you know you have posted this to get a reaction. There will be people out there that agree with you. There will also be ones that don't. Accept that!
My DS dad has never done anything for me and the first mothers day he was around. His abandoned his child now for most my DS. Do you see me coming online posting how shit men are, and reminding all the men out there when it's mother's day... NO!
I don't think men are shit. The one I met was. But you have to remember there are many men and women out there in situations like ours but choose to be dignified about it.
I am sorry your child's Mother sounds abit shit. Unfortunately you can't change some people.
Your post sounded abit like an attack on mom's, but we aren't all bad

Maybe you should direct your anger at the appropriate person..

My Ds will not be sending a fathers day gift or card to his dad because he hasn't been in contact for 8 years because he prefers drugs to been a father.. DEspite me raising his son for him I never get a card or gift sent by him.

My son wished me happy fathers day last year as he said I do the job of the mum and dad.

you might feel anger towards your ex for whatever reason but don't assume that this applies to every mum

@Starlight456 your ex has not been in contact, thats a different story. My anger is directed to the appropriate people. Whatabout the ex's that are in contact or trying to get contact but the Lowlife Mothers (Child Abusers via Parental Alienation or just idiots that want some form of revenge) As I said, not all Mothers are the same, but this post is directed at exactly the people I have described in the brackets...sadly, there are alot that do fit into this category, many are also on mumsnet.shame on them, they know who they are!!