Hi, I'm just after a bit of advice. Long story short - I have a 5 yr old with my ex. He works shifts. I get given a contact schedule every 10 weeks (he doesn't know beyond that). He generally sees child once a week and a bit more in the school holidays. He's just had a new baby.
It's far from ideal as I can never really plan more than a few months in advance, but I put up with it to ensure they have a good relationship, which they do.
I've been invited to go away for 5 days at the end of the year, to attend a wedding abroad. Have asked ex to have our child (I never go away). Ex doesn't know what his shift pattern is that far in advance so has said he can't help out, as it may turn out he is at work those dates.
He does get leave but I believe has used most of it for the baby. I have family but they wouldn't be able to help for the full 5 days.
What are people's thoughts on this? I don't want to be unreasonable in asking him to have our child when he could be working 