My ex and I split up in 2015. The relationship was abusive and he was charged in 2009 with assaulting me resulting in being on probation for 2 years. Towards the end of his probation I was pregnant and social services turned up at me door telling me that I was living with a highly dangerous man but were unable to shed any further light. My ds was on a protection plan for the first 6 month of his life.
It took me another 4 years and another child for me to separate with him.
Following the split he maintained a lot of control. I met someone in 2017 and put steps in place to eradicate my ex from my life. We attended mediation and agreed contact arrangements (which he's subsequently changed but that's a different story) which eliminated face to face contact and agreed that Contact was to be kept minimal and solely to things that had an Impact on the children or affected their day to day lives which has generally been working.
I asked for support from school last year as my daughter was behaving in an inappropriate way at school, my son was angry and had behaviour issues. They'd also reported several arguments between my ex and his partner, one of which woke them up in the middle of the night. The way the arguments were explained sounded like my ex had extended his jealousy and controlling ways to his new relationship and I worried about the children witnessing verbal abuse but also about it escalating.
An early help assessment was put in place. My sons behavior has improved. My daughters behaviour had improved but a series of events recently had resulted in a referal to nspcc.
The school liaise with me and my ex separately about issues in school and I'd been told that he was fully aware. When nspcc contact him he contacted me to ask what it was for as he wasn't really told anything (later confirmed to be untrue) and he went mad. Saying I'm a terrible parent to not have told him, that he was seeking legal advice.
Since then, he has contacted me on each contact day. The first day to give me a breakdown of things I didn't need to know.... Kids had a shower, son has taken sponsorship money in. I responded and said there's no need to contact me about this and asked him to only contact about things is absolutely necessary In line with our agreement following mediation
I received another message last night to advise that daughter didn't bring school shoes home and son left book back so can't do homework.
Again, I said this was a trvial matter, that I suggest he speaks to his childcare on Monday. My childcarer knows to collect the children in their uniform and with their book bags and doesn't need reminding of this. Again asked that he respect that I do not wish to hear off him if absolutely necessary.
I have a feeling he's trying to suddenly portray that he's a decent person and look to contact me to give running breakdown of kids day. He's an awful person and I really do not wish to hear from him.
Can I stop him from contacting me?