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Ex partner stopping payments-advice

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Naomi9576 · 20/04/2019 20:57

My DD is coming up two and until recently my ex has been paying £150 a month CM through a private agreement. This was made prior to giving birth and at which point he decided he didn't want any contact with her or myself. He changed his number, blocked me off everything and supposedly has moved address so I have no details whatsoever.

As far as I'm aware he had a standing order set up and the last payment I didn't receive so he's more than likely stopped the standing order. This has completely thrown me out as I as all the money I do get goes on childcare so that 150 goes a long way although not a lot. I'm planning on going through cms although I've heard a lot of nightmare stories about it.

We wasn't together long so I have little financial info about his side, but from comments he made here and there, on a bad week he earned around £600 a week, but on an average month around £3k. The problem is he mentioned about him being self employed, although I don't know to what extent as he worked for his dad (not sure if it was his dad's company or his dad was a manager etc). I feel as though he's going to lie through his teeth and avoid payments as he clearly isn't taking any financial responsibility.

The one thing I do know is that he had to pay tax as I recall him complaining one time that he owed tax money to HMRC etc so I know he is getting taxed. Just wondering whether the fact he is taxed means they will have some kind of proof of earnings? And also how I go about CMS without any information of him except his name? I have no birth date, address, family info or anything. I've tried to search his name on Google to find for any companies but I can't find anything! Any advice would be great x

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TheInvestigator · 20/04/2019 21:02

Call CMS and ask. Really, no one here can help you with that.

Soontobe60 · 20/04/2019 21:08

If he has been paying you money for 2 years the bank will have some info.

eve34 · 21/04/2019 08:50

You will need some information. They need an address to write to him. Otherwise they can't progress the case. Do you know the name of the company. Do you know any mutual friends.

It is good he is known to Hmrc. That is how they calculate the amount. But as you know if he works for his father this is likely to be to his advantage.

Get the ball rolling you have another 16 years of child support a head of you. And involve your mp if you feel Cms are dragging their feet.

Naomi9576 · 21/04/2019 11:12

I have no idea regarding the company name at all! I have his old address but no clue regarding the new one! We have no mutual friends as he's got them to block me as well! I have one still on social media although he's friendly with my ex so I doubt he will give me any information unfortunately

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