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Very worried that CAFCASS are not checking father's lies

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NooNooMummy · 18/04/2019 09:01

Had another telephone interview with CAFCASS. Am shocked and very worried that CAFCASS seem to be accepting father's lies about me and about the situation. What can I do?!!!

I've already provided documentary evidence that shows the extent of ex's lying. But they seem not to have read any of it. Am alarmed that these facts are going unchecked and that lying ex's statements are being believed or at least given the benefit of the doubt! I appreciate that CAFCASS are overworked but it's my daughter's well being that's at risk here - I've already experienced a court order being made hurriedly without reference to facts established at previous hearings...

So, CAFCASS's s7 report will be delivered next week and I have a week to respond to it but surely the damage will already have been done once the report is written and my response to it will have very little effect?

And, I end up coming across like the deranged, hysterical woman. What can I do?!!

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NooNooMummy · 30/04/2019 16:50

So, Cafcass have corrected DD's name in the report. And that's it!

Clearly, I'm a deranged, hysterical woman and the CAFCASS officer is happy to file a report that doesn't explore the extent of ex's lies, is happy to record thosa lies as though they are facts (even though they cant have been evidenced and clearly haven't even been checked) and is happy to completely ignore significant facts that I've evidenced, such as ex's repeated cancellation of contact at short notice.

I give up.

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Beachbodynowayready · 30/04/2019 16:55

Highlight the errors and take the report to a solicitor /barrister.
In our report my ds was referred to as Gilbert.
His name def isn't Gilbert.

Hullabalooo · 01/05/2019 08:01

You'll need to bring this up in court. List your issues so they can be discussed.

There are some useful cafcass support groups on Facebook so maybe discuss there too.

Hullabalooo · 01/05/2019 08:02

Really sorry they've been so rubbish xxx

NooNooMummy · 04/05/2019 18:00

So the resulting order:
If at any time in the future, I fail to force my daughter to see her abusive father, the local authority must be informed immediately I.e. as a result of father's lies and CAFCASS not checking actual evidence and facts, my daughter is now at risk of being taken into care.
And handover is to take place at a place chosen by the father, by him and me - not a third party-so that I can no longer avoid contact with him myself I.e. as a result of father breaking in through my front door and being questioned by police, who were called by a concerned neighbour, I now have to leave my house to do handover with him face to face because CAFCASS haven't actually bothered speaking to police about what actually happened and have accepted father's lies instead.

Father actually looked a little panicked when he realised that his lies have brought us to this - a document stating that my daughter can be taken into care.

I have no idea what to do now. I have no idea how this has actually happened. Many tears have been shed. I just don't understand how CAFCASS can fail to have checked actual facts. They must really have taken a dislike to me. My poor daughter!

Interested to hear what other's think of this. Cos I think that I'm going mad.Sad

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Beachbodynowayready · 04/05/2019 18:32

You need to see a barrister and appeal. Are you north east op? Mine was amazing....
You need to keep a meticulous diary for starters.

Hullabalooo · 05/05/2019 13:15

Appeal. You must appeal.

I'm so so sorry to hear how awful things are.

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NooNooMummy · 05/05/2019 19:42

Thanks. I need someone SE/ London

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Hullabalooo · 05/05/2019 21:07

There are some useful cafcass support groups on Facebook so ask for good family lawyer recommendation for your area on there.

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