What can i do?

[Chuggachuggachugginton]

I have two small DC, their DF lives with OW and there was an incident last year where police and SS became involved - long and short is that the case was closed as they advised they could not prove or prove said incident occured.
Fast forward to now, their DF has toldme.inno uncertain terms will DC be going to their home again because OW is not comfortable with this and they will now only see DC if other people are around so their DF has said he can see them for 3 hours on a sunday but not every weekend, can i see solicitor to get a child contact agreement drawn up? Their DF is suggesting a contact centre will be more accomodating to his hours of work as he suddenly has to work all these additional hours including every weekend now and i feel like i am tearing my hair out trying to resolve this, can anyone please offer any advice?

Sadly no one can force him to see his children, even if you have a court order all it does is force you as the RP to make them available it does not force the NRP to see them.

I was worried that may be the case, thank you, feels like i have to put our lives on hold on the off chance he decides to see them then:(

Tell him to arrange contact centre. And assume he isn't seeing the children until then. Hard for you I know but on his head be it.

He sounds like a dick, putting his bit of stuff before his kids. Don't put your life on hold. Live the best life you can with your babies and if he decides he wants contact, well then maybe it just might not suit you. Make him do the running and get a claim in for maintenance.

I wouldn't even bother forcing him to see his children if he doesn't want to. He doesn't deserve them.

What an absolute loser. Let him arrange it all, and as said above, if you're not available, then that's tough shit for him until a court tells you otherwise. Might encourage him to get his finger out and actually put his kids first.

Don't hold your breath though.