Finding things really hard

[BlueMoon1103]

Hello,

I’m not really looking for advice, just some reassurance things will get better or tips on getting through

I have a son who is four weeks old and I’m finding everything really difficult. I love him so much but feel very confined by the constant feeding/crying etc. and it’s gettibg me down. I feel like I’m losing my patience which is a horrid feeling. I breastfeed and he usually takes about an hour each feed and wants more every two hours. I’ve recently bought a baby carrier to try and get things done around the house and be able to use my hands but nasty as it sounds I don’t really like wearing it - he prefers being attached to me but I find it hard. My Mum helps out a lot which is very nice of her but it seems like when my son’s upset he calms down more for her than he does me which makes me really sad, I feel rejected.

I’ve alqays suffered from anxiety and it’s got bad over the last few weeks. I feel like a bad Mum and I’m just feeling really low. If anyone has been through the same thing when did it get better?

Thanks for sticking with it.

Hi OP,

How you are feeling is completely normal. You are exhausted and learning so much about being a mum and caring for your child.

All I can say is do whatever you need to to keep you sane, whether it’s having some time away from baby for an hour or so, or just having someone watch them while you have some ‘me’ time in the bath or having a nap.

If the feelings of being down and at a loss continue please talk to your husband, mum, family and health visitor. They are all there to help you and can point you in the dirextion.

Having s newborn is hard. Figuring out what they want can be a challenge. If baby wearing isn’t for you then that’s ok. If breastfeeding isn’t for you, that’s ok. Do what works for you and your baby and it will get better in time.