How to rebuild?

[Happyinheels]

Hi, just looking for advice on how to rebuild your life as a single parent.

It is literally me and my 15yo DD and 12yo DS. Both of my parents are dead. I have a sister who doesn't live close and we're not close relationship wise either. I Lost any in-law relationships when exH and I split up.
My kids are at the age where they have their own lives. DD has a boyfriend. DS is always out and about with friends.
I have a few close friends but they all have husbands and families of their own.
My life has changed beyond all recognition really. I always had my in laws around or I'd be round there. My exh and I did everything together really.
I'm self employed and work from home so I don't have colleagues.

And I'm lonely. So so lonely. I realised today that asides from the kids, I have no life. And I don't even know how to begin building one.
It's the weekend but it's just another day for me. I feel like a single mum version of Eleanor Oliphant!

Has anyone experienced this? How did you start to build a life? Any words of advice would be appreciated thanks.

Sounds a bit like me. I do park run. Good way to meet people, the exercise makes me feel more cheerful, & no matter how slow I was, there’s always someone slower.
You could run with your ds, with a friend or on your own.
I joined a gardening club and a martial arts class. But you could join a business woman’s network or an art class - you have complete freedom.
Or volunteer for something. Plenty of people need help.

Go to Rock Choir as a starting point.

I am in a very similar position though my Ds is 11 has sn’s No contact with dad so unless out with scouts I am at home .

I think time to look at what you would like to do book club , yoga, an craft .

I love swimming but then am not contactable so doesn’t work often

What do you enjoy? I am looking forward to being able to go to exercise classes when I can leave the children on their own.

We are part of a community allotment. And I volunteered at the night shelter. Can't say I have made any friends. But it breaks up the weekend and gives me. Sense of purpose.

Oh I need this today, Ds is 7 though. I just feel lost these days!

It's really really hard to start with, but it does get better in time. What worked for me was making a real effort getting to know my neighbours, but I'm lucky that I live in a small street where it's easy to bump into people and get chatting. One of them is now a really good friend.

Try the meetup app - great way to find local clubs in your area. If there's not something you fancy, why not start a group? I started up a hiking/ outdoor activities group, and now when my girls are with their mum I'm busy climbing mountains with a great group of people. Also joined a local open water swimming group. Volunteering is a good way to meet people.

Generally, figure out what you love and follow those passions. You're bound to meet people win a similar outlook when you're doing the things you love.

Thank you so much for the responses. I would like to get back into exercising. I find I'm knackered all the time - working FT and doing absolutely everything is just so hard.

I thought about volunteering at the Scouts as I love outdoor stuff and camping.

Rick choir is a great idea - I saw a group performing before Christmas as I was out Christmas shopping. They looked like they were loving it!

Are you me? Not split but looking dodgy and it terrifies me because I have nothing, kids are older too. Well work, a few friends but mostly they are joint through him. We are quiet people who hike and have pub lunches not socialise.

@SlightlyMisplacedSingleDad I just had a look at the meet up app. There's nothing in my local area but I might try and join some of the walks that are on there. I don't mind traveling.

I think I need to somehow dig deep and shake this off, pick myself up and crack on! But finding that motivation is so hard.