After low contact how to deal with ex

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I'm after other people's experience. Ex left me 15 months or so ago. I went low contact. Communication about kids/money only. He had other women. And wasn't paying child support. Etc. Things weren't easy. During in September there were some issues. And I felt less angry towards ex. Only for him to take advantage stop child support again and some other difficult behaviour.

So since then I am of course civil. But only communicate about access. Money is now done by cms.

I realise I need to be more grown up. As I don't want the children to feel awkward about their parents. I don't bad mouth him to them. And speak positively about them and his contact etc.

But I'm still angry about how he has behaved and treated the children and I. If it weren't for the children I be happy to never lay eyes on him again.

I also don't want him to think I want to be friends. I just feel there needs to be some middle ground. But not sure how that looks.

Any thoughts. Or is it just that thing called time?

5 years on and I’m struggling to find any middle ground. As soon as he perceives me as ‘softening’ (when I am trying to create a civil dialogue) he tries to take advantage and we go back to minimal communication.

It’s as good as it gets. And that’s fine.

How old are the DC?

Seriously stick with age appropriate truth regarding your ex. You can positive about their live for him and contact as well as being "Daddy was unkind/unreasonable to me when he did x" it's a life lesson that people we love are not perfect!

You can keep it business like and civil, why does it need to be anything else?

Thank you for the replies. The children are 7 and 12. 12 year old is no contact after some poor parenting from ex.

I have made no bones about ex moving on.

I'm happy to continue as it is. There is part of me that wonders if I need to rise above it. As the right thing to do for the children. I guess that requires both parties need to cooperate.