Everyone's going to know

[Hullabalooo]

So my EA ex has decided to take me to court for increased contact with dc. I've kept the ongoing DA through ex to myself, family and small circle of friends but there are loads of people who think ex is amazing wonderful person and have no idea of how abusive he's been.

Because he's applied to take me to court I've been forced to submit a C1a regarding allegations of domestic abuse.. he'll get the forms soon.

I'm dreading the fact that it'll be official and that he's going to go ballistic about it and also that loads of people are going to find out and make judgements about me and him and maybe (probably) assume that I'm lying especially given that they have been told that I'm mad already.

I know I shouldn't care. I know it shouldn't matter but I live in a town where everyone knows everyone and everyone's business and it's going to be even more difficult than it already is. Is there anything I can do to make it easier and more bearable?

It's hardly your fault! Such men are highly adept at deceptive behaviour, he's fooling people he knows in the same way as he duped you. They'll either see it or they won't. It's not
Your problem what they think of him and you have no control over that. All you can do is stay strong and concentrate on what you have to do. Don't be sidetracked by the irrelevant. It's another tool for him to abuse you with. While he was making you sad he will have been building his outside relationships and his reputation as a decent chap.

Just do what you need to, for yourself and your family

Thanks @pulyasochsup that's supportive and appreciated. He's certainly had lots of free time for his PR campaign.

Wondering whether you just move once court stuff is over.