So tired of being alone

[lyssie29]

My fiance died almost 3 years ago very suddenly. He just got up in the morning and collapsed and that was it. He was gone. At the time my kids were 3 years old and 6 months old and while it's been a struggle as they are very energetic children I'm doing ok but due to issues with child care (I was only working minimum wage part time and no family willing to help) I had to leave my job. None of my friends have children and it's got to the point where I'm spending most of my time alone and now my sister has just said to me she no longer wants to meet me at weekends because the kids are too noisy so basically I see her for 2 hrs when my youngest is at nursery on a Tuesday. I feel so fed up. I'm alone alot and she doesn't understand that and has just said well ull have to ask someone else. I don't know what to do anymore. I do go out for walks and such I go shopping, out for coffees etc. But all on my own. Is anyone else like this? I can't even join any clubs or anything due to having my youngest with me.

Do you have any local groups where parents meet up during the day with pre-school age children ? Sometimes these are run by churches, local charities, a group of mums, or maybe the local community centre or sports centre. I met some really good friends through toddler groups.

Are you in a position to think about child minding as a job ?

I'll have a look online maybe for groups but I used to take my kids to the groups they do at the library but they're too big for them now they only do bounce and rhyme and toddler time. All of the sure start centres around me have closed down. I'll have another good look. I had thought about working in a nursery but I'd need to do work experience and they told me I'd need to get my own childcare and I can't afford it. I might look into childminding though and see what I need to do. If it involves going to college the local college does have childcare facilities bit I'm not sure about Costs and such.

I can empathise with your situation its really hard. Joining a single parent group - gingerbread or a single parent meet up would probably be a good option. Through experience i think you really need to give these things a good go and not just go a couple of times and give up. If you just keep turning up eventually you will make friends.
Also they are still young, it will get easier for you as they get older.
Your sister doesn't understand, I find people just don't even if they say they do unless they have been in a similar situation.
Good luck