Feeling like I'm failing

[CoconutGal]

Struggling to balance things. I work long days. I love my job, it took me 12yrs to get to the first stage of my career. Childcare can be a challenge with DD 12. She goes to my parents when I'm at work, although exH says he will help out he doesn't really. He makes a plan with me then drops it so I then have to change my shifts to be here for DD. I'm not well at the moment physically & mentally & im trying to hold it together. DD is a happy kid, I've never really had problems with her that I can't handle myself. I just feel like everyone around me right now is chewing away at a piece of me.

My parents think I should leave my job cause it brings a few challenges to childcare.
My exH is more interested in getting to me than DD & often blames me for a lot of things.
The changes I have to make with shifts means I have to try & make up my contracted hours otherwise I lose money.
I just feel like I'm not good enough for DD. Like I'm failing her again & again & again. I want to say a massive F You to the world & just tell everyone to either support me or leave me alone. 😔

Don't quit your job! What hours do you work? Your daughter is getting older and won't need child care soon.

At 12 she should be OK on her own for a few hours if not longer.?

Drop her off at fuckwits house for a few days, let him pull his weight for a change.

Do not give up your work! That's probably what he's been hoping for.

Well done you for doing so well. Your daughter's fine you're in a job you've worked hard to achieve.

We all feel we're failing from time to time, but the facts show you're doing a great job. Give yourself a break. Let your ex look after your dd for a day and go for a spa with a friend (or something else you'll enjoy). You deserve it.

Thank you for your replies.

I work 12hr shifts so DD is usually at school or home most of the day then goes to my parents for tea. Everything with exH is a game or a kind of argument. He's not happy unless I'm unhappy.