Contact with my ex and 2.5yr old son was stopped 6 months ago following separation due to safeguarding concerns, I have been through solicitors to try to facilitate appropriate contact but this has been unsuccessful due to ex’s volatile nature, there are police reports due to harassment towards me throughout this time and I am now no contact with him other than child contact issues. He has been told by various professionals to apply to court to resume contact, which 6 months down the line he still has not done but continues to harass me and manipulate me into doing what he wants.
I received a really nasty email from him yesterday which for one has really upset me, but he’s made a comment about child maintanence which has come out of no where as I’ve never demanded he contribute, he decided to give some money directly to me each month, which has been hit and miss and I have not questioned.
The issue that I have is that he is now saying that he is withholding maintenance until contact is resumed and that he will be putting the money into a savings account and I have to ask him when I need money or stuff for the child. No way will I be asking him for money and I do not believe he will be putting the money aside, also this contributes towards our sons nursery fees.
Do I contact child maintenance and get it set up officially or will the judge request to see said savings account when it gets to court?