SAHM. Struggling HELP!

[missmummymum]

Hi

I recently pulled my son out of school because he was misbehaving. I was constantly having to go to the school to collect him or diffuse a particular situation in the end I got the feeling they were going to permanently exclude him as they have suspended him previously.

My son is four and has experienced a lot since he was born, due to his Dad and I. He has a close relationship with his Dad however his dad and I would always end up arguing and fighting a lot. Our son is now on a CP plan and his Dad is no longer living in the home and is going to start supervised contact with our son on a centre once a week. I'm sure my sons behaviour is due to his Dad not being around but I can't just let his Dad back in our lives. SociL workers have said that they want all visits to be supervised because of the trouble he has gotten into not only to do with me but with others also.

Anyway the point in my post is that I have now had to put everything I am doing on hold because my child is no longer in school and he has to remain with me 24/7 I have no money and we live in a one bedroom where my son has the room. His behaviour is getting out of hand and I don't feel as though I am able to support him fully because My emotions and thoughts are everywhere. I really don't want my son to rely on his Dad for happiness but I don't know how to feel okay.

Not being able to work or go to university is getting to me and I don't get a break at all.

Please any positive advice and suggestions are much appreciated at this time.

Thank you

Your son is four and they have suspended him previously? He’s still a baby really, was the school not able to offer some support?
Is there another school he could attend? Or even a preschool/nursery whilst you get a plan together.

You need to get benefits sorted.

You need to talk to school. I assume he's due to start full time Sept? Have you applied to the school he's at now?

You need to talk to SS and get some support. There's obviously more to your history than you want to discuss, which is fine, but you need all the support you can get.

Why was DS excluded?

My Ds did play therapy with women’s aid . He had to be 5 but went on the waiting list at 4.

I am having to read between the lines but my guess is living in that household has got him to where he is now not the lack of contact

He needs structure but a very calm house . Lots of positive contact and praise.

@Biscusting @SleepingStandingUp @Starlight456

Hi thank you for all your responses.

My son was previously excluded for being violent towards a teacher just before the Christmas break.

He is currently doing play therapy once a week through SS however im not sure it's helping. He can get very angry and I think he would benefit from anger management.

I have rang around all the schools in the area but they don't have any spaces available.

I agree it is possibly where we live as when we moved here a year ago we moved in as a family. Also dad has caused a lot of problems after getting him to leave, so my son has seen me have to call the police a few times as instructed by SS.

Thanks again

I wouldn't underestimate what the consequences are of what happened before ExP left. Which means now your son isn't exposed to that and you can start to repair the damage.

Keep on with the therapy, ask about anger manangment too.

I think you need to speak to the school you've left and ask for their support