Pissed that X says pointed things to DC's about my parenting

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Under a year and a half ago my X did something that put the dcs on a children's protection plan, as my X continued with poor behaviour we ended up with a working agreement with CP where X wouldn't be left alone with the dcs. Basically is about addiction and endangering behaviour while loaded

Six months ago X was removed from the family home.

Since then me and the dcs have become a tight little unit and it looks very likely that they will come off the at risk register. But it's a tough gig, holding down a job, looking after the dcs who are pretty emotionally messed up with dc1 being quite badly bullied at school.

Anyway, my gripe, I am seriously fucked off that my X moans to the dcs about my parenting skills. This last year I have been under the magnifying glass of children's protection, with them seeing the children frequently, it's felt like every move of mine has been watched. To have my X say snarky shit about me looking after the dcs to the dcs during contact seriously fucks me off. it's got to a head because of my childcare arrangements for half term. I don't see why my X should interfere in them and I'd like to my X to fuck off

Btw for disclosure purposes, I'm a single dad to 2 dds 13&10.

At least you're capable of parenting at all unless your ex. I think you're just going to have to try and try not to let this bother you and maybe scream into a pillow when you're on your own to vent the frustration...

*unlike your ex!

Thank, yep I know this is pretty much my equivalent if screaming into a pillow

‘I will Rise above it. I’m are a professional ‘ is what we say in our house when someone is being petty.
You have got this, as demonstrated by your comments in other treads.
You kids are in safe hands with you and whoever you trust to care for them when you work.

Could you (kindly) point out to X that you’re both responsible for the wellbeing of your children and not only does criticism of a parent undermine the child’s trust in the way things are it reflects badly on the critical parent too, potentially leaving the child feeling vulnerable with questions about who they can trust. It matters not one jot what the parents think of one another if they keep it to themselves but it matters a great deal how the children learn trust and security

bionicnemonic
Generally I do that after contact, seven the dds dump what's been said. I'm trying hard not to be a toxic parent and telling X that she needs to build a relationship. I'm polite but terse. It's just an extra but of tiering stuff to do.