Unsupportive baby Father

[Vanessab20]

Hi,
I'm currently 23 weeks pregnant and am a single mum to be.
Just would like some advice and to see if any other mums/mum's to be in same situation, and how they overcame it.

Basically I found out I was pregnant by my bf at the time and his mum offered for me to move in with him until we could afford to buy our own place.
Things didn't work out and I had to move out. My bf didn't want to private rent with me nor be my Garuntor to rent.
Therefore I declared myself homeless to council and am in a temporary self contained studio hostel.
Since I've moved out he hasn't made no effort to come to see me or ask how I am.
I have told him he's not being supportive and feel like I am alone. This has made no difference. He don't want to be with me and says he wants to just see his child weekends when born.

I don't know what I should do and I'm very upset and feel like he don't care about me nomore 😥

Sorry you're going through this! Your bf is a waste of space tbh. The baby is his as well, and he thinks he can pick and choose whatever he likes? By law he has to support your baby. Please go to a community centre and ask for advice. Do you have any relatives around?

Good luck x

Sound similar to my situation but I’m with my parents. My advice is:

1. Don’t expect him to change. At every milestone I thought he’d see sense but he’s never met her or even asked for a picture.
2. Get life insurance and a will sorted.
3. He does not need to be on the birth certificate to pay for baby.

It’s scary and it’s hard so don’t beat yourself up if you have a wobble. Feel free to dm me or ask me anything.

Ps. I’m on the list for social housing.

Wise words from pp.

You will not change him . He has no legal obligation until baby is born.

Focus on getting yourself sorted for when baby arrives . Be prepared to do it all alone .

When baby is born contact cms for maintenance . He doesn’t seem like someone who likes giving money away.

Do ensure you put your surname on birth certificate.

He can see baby little and often . He doesn’t get to take newborn baby away from you .

Thanks for the messages.
Yes I do have family to support me and friends.
I am trying to just stay strong and enjoy my pregnancy x