I'm fed up of trying to feed the dcs

[disneyspendingmoney]

I'm hungry,
ok what would you like?
I dunno
Something sweet or savoury?
I dunno
Oreo?
no
crisps
no
sandwich?
no
Any idea what you would like?
Sushi
(it's midnight)
Sorry shops are shut
McDonald's
It's shut
KFC
it's shut too I can do you a hotdog
OK
phew at last, a choice has been made. 2 minutes later a couple of hotdogs microwaved
They're too hot - I don't want them

DC had fallen asleep before dinner was cooked, because of a busy day at school, which is why I was in with doing some good at midnight, because DC us a difficult eater at the age of 10.

It's bloody hard work trying to get a fussy eater to eat

Your ten year old was up at midnight?

Make a snack box in the fridge/pantry, (fill it with fruit, crisp, minute noodles, cheese biscuits, yogurts, etc etc)
When asked .... I'm hungry.
Answer is, help yourself to your snack box.
No child died from one night of hunger.....

Feed proper meals at proper mealtimes. Stop offering your 10 year old crisps at midnight

Nope. I wouldn't be pandering to that.

He'll eat when he's hungry. It must be quite good fun having you dancing to his every whim though. Snack box is a good idea.

Mine are younger but fussy
Everything is a no or a shaken head
Gets exhausting and frustrating
If your hungry eat lol

I have a fussy eater, sit down and write a shopping list with him or agreed meals and stick to it, he can help you prep the meals.

Don't give in to fast food, agree on a treat once in a while if he eats your agreed meals, and choose quick dinners if he falls asleep straight after school, you're in a rut but you can get out of it.

As soon as they've said " I dunno".
Just say 'let me know when you've made up your mind' and leave them to it. ...

Not sure how willing you're to drive out and get them KFC, Mcdonalds or sushi. You could stump your feet and tell them whatever they decide to eat needs to be something already in the house.

As someone said above, no child has ever died from skipping one meal. You can let them fuss but there's no need for you to fuss back.

What a selection of healthy food you offered there

Maybe get them to put together a list of snacks they like
I did this with DC1 and then when she says there's nothing she eats I can point out the things she chose
With DC2 I have to guess them by what's been eaten before

Who is the 10 year old?

Your kids are 12 and 14 here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/divorce_separation/a3408111-dealing-with-contact-and-not-being-a-toxic-parent#82169292

Although, they did turn 11 and 13 a few months later:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/lone_parents/a3475893-who-sorts-out-the-contact#84027394