Scared 4 year old and Contact with Dad

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Long story but basically we have been going through the family court now for approx 18 months the courts have granted supervised contact in a contact centre to see how our son will respond to seeing his father again. The last contact was nearly 2 years ago and very negative and scary for him. His father has been made to do a domestic abuse perpetrator course due to the abuse in our relationship and because he's completed 50% Of the course he's now being rewards with this face to face contact. Fantastic for him. However how do I prepare my 4 year old for his I've asked cafcass for advice and they advised 1 letter before contact to reintroduce father and son. How that's supposed to help after 2 years of no contact and a little boy who's scared to even see a photo of daddy I do not know. Any suggestions or advice from people who's been in this situation would be really grateful

I have no advice but I'm sorry your son is going through this. All I can think of is if you talk about his dad positively and frequently it hopefully might make him start to think positively about his father.

Thank you. We've been doing this and I've asked his nursery to do the same but he's a stubborn and clever little thing and remembers perfectly what he saw last. It's a nightmare but thank you for your reply xx