Hi I have nc for this as
its quite outing so dont want it
linked to me.
I have a daughter with asd, due to her attendance (she has started refusing to go to school, screams and cries every morning and says that she hates school.) Im struggling to get her to school and this has effected her attendance as she has meltdowns and refuses to walk, which means we are late alot. Anyway instead of the school being understading and trying to help they have referred me to social services.
I had a social worker visit me today who said there was no excuses at all to be late, and when I tried to explain my daughters difficulties she said “other parents manage!” She also seemed quite obsessed with my ex being absent (I told her he hasnt had contact for over 2 years) and she actually said to me I should be trying to get him to have contact! even though he doesnt want to 
and thats its “not about me” and its about my daughter. When I said he wouldnt beneficial to her life she didnt agree and asked if I had ever thought of sending him a message asking him to have contact?! I said no and that if he wanted contact he can go to court (which he wont) but she wouldnt drop it.
She also asked about his family and why they dont want contact and that my child should have contact with the other side of her family! I am so shocked, this is a man who hasnt bothered with my children (I also have a younger child) in 2 years and has paid no maintenance but apparently
I should be chasing him to see
them?! 
For context ex was
violent to me and abusive so im quite shicked by her comments. She would be aware as I called the police and it was referred to Social services at the time but the case was closed quite quickly due to me having no contact with him. Does anyone else find this odd?? I cant believe she was saying I should be chasing my ex for contact. I also said you shouldnt be the one to chase the other parent if they dont want contact then thats up to them but she didnt agree clearly.