Breastfeeding and contact with Ex partner

[Bumpandus]

Hi

My daughter currently sees her father every weekend (one week one full day and the next week two full days (1 night))

She is Exclusively breastfed and I plan to feed her until she is 1/ I am back at work etc and then I have offered to up the contact to once in the week overnight and every other weekend Friday night until Monday morning. (If baby is happy to completely stop breastfeeding) Do you think this is reasonable?

We are currently going to mediation and will be attending court as he wants every weekend NOW which is impossible for me as I have to pump milk for all the bottles at the weekend.

Has anyone had any experience with breastfeeding and contact?

I’d like to think it’s very unlikely that he will get what he wants. Because it wouldn’t be in the child’s best interests.

Regardless of you pumping, baby might not take a bottle, will likely get extremely distressed at no boobs.

Luckily she does take a bottle that’s why we have agreed to the above arrangement but I worry about her going more than one night at a time as at the moment she is fine when she goes for the day but when she goes overnight she is unsettled and clingy with me for one or two days.... I personally feel she is too young for overnight contact but because he doesn’t know my address and has been emotionally abusive it’s the only way he can see his daughter so I have tried to be reasonable. I just worry about upping it and worry that he will get every weekend after court I work full time too so will feel like I never see her ☹️

He would be highly unlikely to get every weekend. You are entitled to quality time with her too.

We have been to mediation today the first appointment and the guy reckons that I am being more than fair letting him see her every weekend as stated above (1 week 1 full day; 1 week overnight (2 full days)). So I guess I feel better now and can carry on as this and attend mediation with him and hopefully increase as she gets older to every other weekend.

Hi, I have been to court, I didn't breastfeed though but I had been told that that would of made no difference anyways. I don't know how old your baby is but as long as you are being reasonable with access until the baby is 1/1 and a half courts/judges will side with main carers opinion(unless unreasonable) on moving forward towards overnight stays