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DaddytheGeminiDragon · 03/02/2019 00:42

Single dad of three, b,g,b 7,5,3

Mums not in picture at all since two years.

Biggest problem, loneliness.

I teach 18 hours a week, people at work and at the supermarket don't count! Seriously feel like I live in the wilderness, diary entry day 764: ... Still no real human contact.

Meh

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WontBeUsingPassMyParcelAgain · 03/02/2019 00:49

I'm just off to sleep, but wanted to say hi. I'm a single parent to boys now aged 10 and 8 since their dad died nearly 6 years ago. I totally understand the loneliness. It has been the hardest thing to deal with in all of this, despite having had wonderful support from multiple friends over the years. Have you seen the single parent thread on here recently? I have dipped in and out, but everyone there gets your feelings completely. And have you tried Gingerbread? My kids play a lot of sport at weekends and this works well as I get to chat to other parents. Without it, I could go 60 hours without an adult conversation.

Mumblers · 03/02/2019 00:59

Single mum here, full time teacher. Colleagues are great, we have fun nights out but they're not 'friends' as in phone each other up etc.

My kids are 8, 12 & 25, but eldest never at home, always gadding about.

While im relatively happy with my life, the loneliness can kick in at times, especially when the kids are in bed, these 4 walls are getting pretty boring to look at night after night

DaddytheGeminiDragon · 03/02/2019 10:38

Thank you for your kind replies.

I haven't trued Gingerbread, I might try that. My children do go to all sorts of clubs, swimming, ballet, football etc. I do talk to a couple of mums at the school that have children who are best friends with my eldest, but its not like we are friends, strictly the kids, play dates etc. I do have a couple of female friends I WhatsApp, but I never see in real life.

I suppose I was never great at being sociable in the first place but now its like I feel like a complete hermit. I get Sunday evenings to myself as they all stay over at my mums house , their Granny's once a week, which I don't know what I'd do without.

But then I never feel to go out or do anything, no idea what to do, especially on a Sunday. End up staying in my house or just cleaning and tidying up.

I'm not really in a good situation to start 'dating' or starting a serious relationship, and its not a sexual loneliness if that makes sense. It would just be nice to have adult company , god even that sounds sexual haha. I'm not interested in these dating sites, I find them very uncomfortable places.

Rant over I suppose

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WontBeUsingPassMyParcelAgain · 04/02/2019 23:44

I get very fed up of talk about football and Pokemon by the end of a weekend. My last night off was the 2nd August so I am pleased that you at least get a little weekly breathing space. It means you could do something nice with someone at some point (and have the option to start a relationship if you wish). I think I'd try and do something like go for a swim.

DaddytheGeminiDragon · 05/02/2019 00:19

I've been really depressed in this house, its a really horrible layout and state of disrepair, I'm glad my landlord wants to sell it. The plan was all optimistically looking forward to our new place and the council finding it for us. I have court lurking over my head now so made everything more difficult. Compounds things. I live in a semi remote area so on a Sunday night opportunities are few and far between.

Just gotta deal with stuff. Hard sometimes .

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disneyspendingmoney · 06/02/2019 14:16

Forums, find forums for things you like, post stuff, get chatting to people, talk about anything. It's a but clichéd but building up a bit of an online comunuty of "friends" to chat with especially in the late evenings when your kids have gone to bed.

Stack exchange, quora, discuss etc is a good q&a site answer and comment on questions.

Here is another good one DM people get chatting.
.DM people in twitter, join Facebook groups Dating sites god they are hard work and there is too much expectation, if you just want a grown-up conversation.

I know what I'm saying is very internet focused but it's intent was as a medium of communication.

Again a but trite, go to the same shops cafes boozers at the same time same day. People are creatures of habit and the work a regular schedule. I can pass 5-10 mind chatting with the woman at the cigarette counter at Tesco's in the morning

The young woman at my local coffee shop, I go in 2-3 times a week for a cuppa over the months we've got chatting.

Your barber 20 mins in the chair getting a trim have a natter

School and daycare, get there a bit early batter with the teachers at the gate name appointments to see the principle and welfare teacher frequently.

This bit will sound aweful, even your GP. I'm concerned about my MH so I go monthly just to chat over how I'm doing and if I'm ok. I see the same GP everything, she's lovely, we chat about school, our kids, the economy or relationships, exercise and she's only a few years younger than me and drop dead gorgeous. That's possibly transference and could be creepy if I wasn't self aware but I come away from seeing her feeling better because of the human interaction.

I do understand how you feel and I do all the above stuff, it's got to the point where on the occasional evening I think, I don't want to "talk" to anyone.

I takes a bit of effort and you have to over come the god I'm embarrassed feeling, but you can do it.

BTW single dad 50, 2 dds 13&10, 2 ddogs

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