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Hello everyone! New here!!! Single mum!

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alfiesmummy2006 · 02/07/2007 23:06

Hello! My mate told me about this site so thought id pop in and say hello!!
Well..............im Emma, single mum to Alfie who is 8 months old!

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moneybagsmammy · 05/07/2007 09:33

hi beller bont leave ur boyfriend get u down he will come round and if not u can do this its the best experience having a baby so u will be ok and congratuations its excellant news and keep it in ur head that this is the best news and be happy [smile}

chikenmother · 05/07/2007 23:56

single mom of 3 here! Hi! Why are there so many single mummys and so little single daddys??

beller · 06/07/2007 08:39

cheers mummybagsmommy- I am fine now...was freaked out in the beginning " going to be on my own for the rest of my life bla bla"
Now I am fine....I am lucky enough to be financially secure, have great friends and family, so I know I will be fine. Cant wait to meet little babybel...really excited now. I know its not going to be easy, but will definately be worth it!
xx

moneybagsmammy · 07/07/2007 20:52

its so worth it beller when u have him or her in your arms its amazing katie is four and a haif months and im so happy being a mom so what if he is not around it just means u have ur little baby all to your self and u never know maybe he might come around is there a chance?

moneybagsmammy · 07/07/2007 20:54

to chikenmother to answer ur question us women are more reliable we dont take the easy way out

beller · 09/07/2007 09:31

moneybagsmammy- there is a small chance i suppose...but i very much doubt it. We were only together for 4 months before the pregnancy happened. We met through friends, so my mates boyfriend has known him years. He has been totally honsest and said he is crap with responsibilty, dosnt want it,didnt want to be a dad again etc. He has a 12 year old daughter that he sees ( no regular visint set though), and says he feels guilty every day thats hes not with her...and now will have it twice.
I have told him its up to him,and he can play as much or little part as he wants, so we will see....We are still talking, but havnt spoken to him for over a week now...NOt sure I want him back now, if this is his reaction to any crisis, maybe im better of on my own and find someone else! We do still get on, but th erelationship was so early , that im not sure there is any way back, and he isnt showing any signs...
xx

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alfiesmummy2006 · 09/07/2007 15:29

Sinlge mum and proud here!!!!
I like this site not often on it but i still like it as you guys are in the same situation as me!

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almostmidnight · 09/07/2007 20:21

hi another new single mum here of 2 little girlies aged 2 and 1. married for 15 years and he walks off with no reasons. he wants to be friends but i just want to push him down the stairs. he even wanted me to move out so he could keep the house and the girls. like I could afford a mortgage or rent on my own. he is just a selfish coward

moneybagsmammy · 10/07/2007 19:04

oh beller along with all the emotions going with pregancy u have this to deal with this should be the happest time of your life getting ready for his or her arrival my daughter is loving the sound of her own voice at moment so looking at her only makes me repeat what i said that u can do this but make him pay his way believe me babies are expensive but its not just the money its only fair he should not be allowed get away with this i know ye are still talking but how dare he just walk away u can do so much better.

moneybagsmammy · 10/07/2007 19:08

almost midnight oh my god how dare he the pig and expecting you to move out what planet is he from you go girl and u can do so much better is there any decent men out there

aimeesmummy · 10/07/2007 20:38

Hello Alfiesmummy! I have 1 dd (whose name I bet you can't guess!) and have been on my own for 6 months. Coping well apart from the harsh realiy of being in on my own every night - thank heavens I got introduced to MN! You won't be a "newbie" fo long - although can someone tell me how long you have to be posting before you're not a newbie anymore? I've only been posting about 3 weeks and still consider myself new although I did start some saucy threads Frday night which kept a few MNers amused for a while!

almostmidnight · 10/07/2007 21:06

Hi there moneybagsmammy. I fortunately have one good ali in my war against my husband, and that is my mother-in-law - my father-in-law did the same to her. She is being fantastic as are all his family. They think he has gone mad in some way. Anyhow, he seems to think he knows all the tricks in the book but I have a few of my own up my sleeve. Just want what is right for my two dd's and he will be paying for the rest of his life. Hope I don't sound too crazy

moneybagsmammy · 11/07/2007 14:39

almostmidnight u do not sound cazy at all u have to play the game after all best of luck.

beller · 12/07/2007 09:18

well i have said to him i dont want or need anything from him...I know what your saying, but if he is going to walk away, id rather not have any contact! We will see...I got a text yeaturday, and when i said i was off sick...no reply...he must be going ut fo his brain with worry!!! not......

moneybagsmammy · 12/07/2007 13:28

beller try not to stress your self you dont need it right now relax and enjoy pregancy

TheWiltedRose · 12/07/2007 13:30

welcome alfies mummy!! hope u enjoy all the wonderfull rants and bickering here on MN! lol

girliefriend · 16/04/2008 20:45

hello I am a single mum as well and new to MN! Still working my way round this site! And getting a tad confused by the abbs!

shelleylou · 16/04/2008 20:53

hi,
click on the acronym list next to usefull stuff at the top of the page that will give you most of the abbs

fifitinkerbell · 17/04/2008 11:08

Hi I am single mum to 2DS (14 & 10) after being in abusive marriage. Been on MN for a few months but still feel quite shy, years of being put down that has done it.

littlewoman · 17/04/2008 11:33

Hello Alfiesmum, Beller, Fifitinkerbell and Girliefriend. I'm a single mum of 6. Totally understand you feeling shy, FFTB. Always terrified of saying the wrong thing and upsetting somebody! But everyone seems friendly here, so join in and get some support. Welcome all

RosaDLuxe · 17/04/2008 12:50

Hi all, I'm new too! I'm single mum (by choice) to Rudy Joe aged 5 and Ivy Dare aged 8 months.

fifitinkerbell · 17/04/2008 14:31

thanks littlewoman. Yes I have that feeling of saying the wrong thing. I am enjoying being a single mum at the moment & even the boys are happier.

LuXander · 17/04/2008 21:53

Hello all, single mum of two and loving it. Have full custody of the remote control, sleep in the middle of my double bed and have my girlie friends to visit, without a man lurking in the background- Hooray!

mamalovesmojitos · 17/04/2008 21:58

hi all. single mum here too! well, dds dad is around in a unreliable, sometimes doesn't answer the phone for days kinda way.

but we're broken up for nearly a year now.

been lurking on mn for a couple of months, just wanted to introduce myself properly.

luxander i am also loving the space and girlie time. ben and jerry are the only men i need. .

Boobalicious · 23/04/2008 12:42

Hi All,

Can't say how nice it is to see all you single mums on here too.
Normally I feel nervous about joining in these sorts of websites cos you could be having nice cosy parenting chats with someone only to discover that they beleive your children shouldn't really have happened! Which is really upsetting - not sure some smug marrieds even realise how much hurt they cause sometimes.
Or else they expect you to act like your children are a total drag - I always find the claws only really come out when you're a single parent and you're enjoying it! Which is depressing.
Anyway this websitte seems ok so I thought I'd take the plunge and join