single first time mom

[l0psy]

Hi everyone!
I'm in my first trimester (eight weeks), pregnancy was a huge surprise and my ex and I are not together.
I'm living with my mother and stepdad at the moment and have been unemployed for about five months due to depression.
But now I'm really wanting to get my act together- I want to create a life for my child and me.
Can anyone help point me in the right direction? Would citizen's advice help me find a cheaper place to live? I'm on a job hunt now.
I don't even know where to start to be honest.

I’d start with a job first. If you can stay at your dm’s home for a few months to build up a deposit, that will be a massive plus.
What about childcare? Will your family help?
Have you talked to your ex about maintenance? Will you need to claim via the CMs?
Once you have these things clear, others will fall into place. Congratulations.

Yeah, i figure I'll have a job by end of February. I'm hoping to get a full time and a part time job, so i can save up as much as i can before little one comes. I'm sure it'll make me ineligible for maternity pay, but I'll figure that out when it comes.
Yeah, my parents said i could definitely stay with them for as long as i need, which is deeply appreciated, but i don't want to stay there too long. And my mom is super excited to be a grandma and they will both help out with childcare when possible.
Yeah, i don't want him to pay any child support as i don't feel it's fair to make him pay seeing as he doesn't want a child.

I'm just stressing myself out ha

On not claiming for child maintenance, I didn’t want to either. My ex had pulled such a stunt I never wanted to hear from him again, let alone take his money.
But having calmed down, I realised that it was my dc’s money, not mine and I didn’t have the right to refuse it. So I have taken it but stashed as much as possible away for when dc wants school trips or driving lessons or university.
Think long and hard before you take such a decision. The father had sex without a condom, knowing that could result in pregnancy. He didn’t care what happened to you. Maybe you should put your child’s needs before him.