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Ex lies that he is victim of parental alienation

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WibbleWobbleWomble · 25/01/2019 23:06

I really need some advice on how to handle my ex. We split 4 years ago. We have one child. There’s a history of DV (him being the perpetrator) He keeps applying for child arrangement orders - we are on the third order. He doesn’t stick to them but takes me back to court and invents stories about me ie claims I’m mental, says I was abused as a child, says I stole a car, says my new partner is abusing me - none of which have any truth in them. But now he has stooped to new lows: he has told everyone involved (solicitors, judge, court guardian, child’s school) that our child has been saying “mummy hates you”and other things like that. This also isn’t true. He says that this means I am emotionally abusing our child. But I am not. Our child has also not said this to anyone else - it isn’t true so that’s to be expected. How do I stop this reversed/made up parental alienation? How do I prove what he said is untrue? How do I prove that what he says has never happened. If something hasn’t happened then there is no evidence of it.

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Starlight456 · 26/01/2019 07:14

I would say burden of proof is on him.

I would simply say you would never speak about ex like that too dc . How old is dc? Cafcass May speak to dc.

I would also tell them this is a campaign against you and history .
You also need to not have phone contact email or messages.

If he speaks and cancels send an email. I am confirming your recent conversation you called ar .... on ... and cancelled because.

Cover yourself.

If this is the 4th time in court I suspect judge will see through this

BobTheDuvet · 26/01/2019 07:25

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WibbleWobbleWomble · 26/01/2019 09:07

Thank you all for your replies. DC is 6 and on Child Protection (suffered injuries in his care - police unable to prove it was him. DC was too young to tell anyone). He now writes emails like “ Xxxx has problems with "mummy hates you" and other negative comments you expose Xxxxx to at home.” He also sent it to the social worker and court Guardian. I am not telling my DC anything like that. DC isn’t telling anyone else (social worker, etc) that either. It’s been a total of 14 years of constant abuse and I can’t stop him. We have contact arranged and he cancels. I then have to tell DC that he won’t be able to so I say that he’s really sad not to see xx but he has to work. Even this isn’t true as he simply cancels without reason. Why can’t he just get on with his own life and see his dc when he says he will?! It’s like a very bad dream that I cannot wake up from.

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NooNooMummy · 26/01/2019 22:49

You have all my sympathy - not that it helps. I know how frustrating, mind blowing and scary this is - my ex is doing g something similar and court papers from him arrived last week, full of lies. Again. I fee like Im going crazy and that the court might believe him. I'm not even sure what he's trying to achieve. I'm just trying to focus on the facts, the truth and hoping that the court will do what's best for my daughter. Stay strong ad focused. Good luck.

NooNooMummy · 26/01/2019 22:51

...your ex sounds VERY similar to mine.

nevernotstruggling · 26/01/2019 23:07

You need to apply for an I think 91(a) no further applications. What a dick I have more than sympathy for you and dc x

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