Fears my ex is neglecting daughter

[Womama1]

My two year old sees her father every morning for 2 hours before childcare, this week my ex has taken her to childcare sopping wet, he's not changing her nappies and he's not feeding her properly on weekend visits, last week she had only eaten chocolate and crisps when he bought her home at 2pm. When I went to collect her last week they were watching an explicit and violent television program, today someone tells me he has been spotted in town talking loudly to himself. I have a few reasons to believe his mental health may be suffering. I've confronted him kindly in an email about these issues and asked if I can provide nappies/food even though he pays bare minimum maintenance. Where can I find out whether this is grounds for withdrawing his weekend care? I don't want them to not see each other but I'd like it to be supervised.

Do you have a court order in place?

Unless there is a court order then there is nothing stopping you restricting / stopping contact.

Has he had problems before?

Is ex coming to your house ? Nappies are not usually that wet in 2 hours?

No it is absolutely not grounds for you to withdraw his contact without his agreement.

Please be aware that you have equal parental responsibility, [assuming he is on the birth certificate] therefore there is nothing to stop him restricting your contact either. At least until a judge rules on it. This is usually how bitter court battles start.

How did he respond to the email?
Ive let my daughter watch Transformers, on a very rare occasion Ive let her have chocolate and crisps in the morning [usually when she's not well, sugar and salt helps to re hydrate]

He hasn't responded to my email, we have no court orders currently and he doesn't come directly to my house, he has her at his home first. Yes, he is on the birth certificate and we have a family arrangement.

Just to be clear, I don't want to withdraw his access, I just worry that she's not being cared for adequately every other weekend. It's not acceptable to me for a 2 year old to be watching Luther and listening to explicit rap. I guess if he's feeding her rubbish at least she is not starving but I don't like to think of her suffering wet nappies/clothes for a whole weekend. I know other lone parents have lots worse problems to deal with.

Luther is extremely violent, I find it disturbing and would never watch it in front of DCs. That is worrying.

The wet clothes is concerning. I wouldn't change a wet nappy on a 2 year old unless it was full but if the clothes have been soaked in urine of course they need changing.

Chocolate and crisps is not ideal but not that serious.

I would keep a diary of issues, get the childcare provider to back you up with what they witness and keep a very close eye on things.

Booboostwo, thank you, we're on the same page.

I think my ex is neglecting my daughter. Not feeding, not changing nappie etc and also talking to himself!🙄 there is no court order, but I won’t stop him from having her!🙄 wake up. Your daughter is two years old and can’t protect herself and you won’t protect her either by sending her back to her unstable father! Seriously? God forbid you would have to have her 100% of the time!

I would happily have her 100% of the time! Her father may or may not be unstable but I would not stop her from seeing her father as I said in my posts I would like visits to be supervised but am unsure of my rights position to enforce this as he is on the birth certificate. I don't welcome judgy bitchy replies I would appreciate some advice and SUPPORT!

Bravo
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