Anyone who's been through the same I can talk to?

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Hi is there anyone who been through the court for custody of their little ones or anyone who's a single parent who I can speak to. We split up at the end of August (on and off) and I'm now worrying about the whole court thing. Iv been told it will go in my favour by my solicitor and everyone else but it doesn't stop me from worrying.

Court is in feb. I'm worried about the cost as well. I don't get any benefits or legal aid. I work part time.

Is the court really scary? I imagine I will get there and just break down crying and be unable to talk. I'm worried about the whole thing. Y

It's still horrible to get threats. In a way it would be better to go so he can't threaten u anymore and to get it over and done with. X

Yes this is the whole reason i want to go. I just ignore him now 👍

Can i check if you'll need to go to court again? I'm in same position - in court for first time soon and really really worrying about it.

Hi just wondering when you went to court did you get a residency order too?? Or is that part of the contact order. Things have changed since i went and i know you dont apply for a residency anymore. I dont want anymore threats of him taking our son, and now as i wont go to mediation next step is court. The reason i wont go to mediation is because he will still mess with arrangements so id rather it all be legal. Im still getting abusive messages off him which i ignore. 😔 he just doesnt seem to understand how to seperate me and him and contact with his son.

Hi sorry for the late reply. I just had a quick look and I can't see that it says residency as such on mine. It says that child to live with mother. I was told by my solicitor that that means I have residency. It also says something about me being able to take our lo away for up to 28days without consent. I am a little confused by that though as iv since been told (by someone online) that I am unable to take her away on the days my ex has contact. I don't think that can be right though as I wouldn't never be able to take her away for even a week holiday. I need to look into it.
You don't need to go to mediation if he is abusive.

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Ahh ok as long as it will say lives with mum thats all i need as he threatens to take him all.the time xx

Yes mine defo says that in there but can't see anything about residency as such. Though my solicitor said I definitely do. Maybe they just don't write it anymore. Iv never seen anyone else's either to compare it.

Hi I'm in a very similar position. My ex wants 50:50 of two year old and 9 week old. We've been to the first hearing today but I obviously do not agree to his demands so we are back next month.

We also have the issue of the house that was up for sale, had cash buyer, ex bullied us out, had to move out to my parents, house was empty while we exchanged contracts, ex sees his opportunity to move back in, begged us to go back, I refused. Ex refused to sell or sign the contracts and we lost the buyer. He's also now changed the locks and told me I have to take him to court to make him sell. Mess!

What did your ex want? Is it 50:50? How old are your children?

Any advice for the next hearing?

Thanks