Ex won't let me have contact with daughter

[mumofone100]

We've been separated for 7 months and ex sees our 2 year old every weekend.

Contact has been him FaceTime me very tue and Thursday to daughter and me every Sunday morning to her whilst he has her.

He has been asked tying to win me back and after me declining his proposal xmas eve he's decided he needs to cut contact in the week to get over me.
I said I still will need contact at the weekend although he is refusing.

She came back this week and I said what did you do with daddy? She said cried for you. So clearly the FaceTime helps her with the 2 days apart as well as myself.

What are the rules with this. Is he allowed to cut my contact at the weekends? Feels like he's using her to get back at me

He isn't required to facilitate a Facetime call unless you've been through the legal process and a judge says so.

He doesn't want to call whilst getting over you. He doesn't have to call or FaceTime or anytging like that.

He has contact with his child. Maybe DC getting used to contact with her father without mum checking in will settle as she sees it as norm.

He's a spiteful git isn't he? Making his own little daughter unhappy to punish you. You are well rid there OP. Nasty pathetic man.

He is allowed to cut it unfortunately; it’s sad that he’s doing it based on his own needs and not your DDs

It’s basically a case of man baby throwing his toys out of the pram because he can’t get his own way. What an arse!
Your little one will adjust, but she will need to see you adjusting too. Try and be really up beat and positive when she’s going and when she comes back to reassure her.
Don’t worry, your ex won’t be able to help himself interfering in your free time. It won’t be long and he’ll either sabotage it or suddenly need to call you to check you’re not out on the town.
Hang in there, it will get easier for you and your little one

I had to stop calls like this because my ex used his to abuse me via the kids and kept asking to see what I'd done in the house. They adjusted fast. It's frustrating but not the end of the world. Mine were 2 and 5 and I still don't allow calls except birthdays and he does the same. It's tough for the longer periods in holidays but you get used to it and I think it makes it more stable for them not to be interrupted.

ozzie
Not wanting to speak to someone a week after they've rejected your proposal is fair enough man or woman.
Whilst in an ideal world reducing calls would be a decision made together, it's reasonable to get to a place where a child can be with their other parent for 48 hours without a phone call.

Now if he continues to be awkward with contact or starts wanting to interfere with the OP's time then i would agree he's being an arse.

Thank you everyone.
He's now said he wants contact everyday and I can call when I want too.
Gone from nothing to all and this is his request. I think he is just a man that likes to be in control more than thinking about what is best for all.
I think every other day is fair, what we had in place before. Do you? I just want what is best for her not him and I.

Does he have her every Saturday and Sunday? That's an unusual set up. What are your plans for contact as she gets older?

If it ended up in court, they only care about what is in the child's best interests. They wouldn't be impressed with petty arguments between parents. They wouldn't be impressed about such tactics but I'm not sure they would do anything about it.

At 2 there is little more pointless than phone calls and FaceTime. Really you both need to back off. For everyone's good. You currently have a routine that means everyone's day is interrupted by the fucking phone. My ex did this and the kids fucking hated it. Let her call if she wants otherwise don't bring it up. Ever.

Go to Court.

Meanwhile, you need a weekend with her too, so change his contact to every other weekend and a few hours after school one evening a week. If you make that the 'status quo' then Court will almost certainly ratify it. You do need weekend time with your child and if he won't allow Skype on his w/e then you don't need to allow on your w/e.