Would you consider MOVING home with Mum?.....

[DeeDs33]

I've recently hit on hard times emotionally. At the moment I'm living in a private rented property with my two children... I've just started up my own business and I'm not in a great position financially although certain benefits do keep a roof over our heads. This house has bad memories for me, I've lived here for over 5 years and both the father of my children and my recent ex partner lived here with me, so it's understandable I've gone off the place .... My mother lives in a 3 bed house (the house I grew up in) alone and has offered for us to move in there for a while, until I have my business up and running and my finances sorted ... I'm so torn as I do love our own space and I'd feel bad invading my mothers space, but then a year there could ultimately improve everything for us .... Has anyone else done similar? If so, did it end positively? ... Thank you

I've thought about it and still am. My aunt though, as that's who brought me up. I'm okay financially, but it would help me save up more for my next place and it may well be that when I sell my flat, I have no choice but move in with her if I've not found anything else.

I don't LOVE the idea because I'm a bit of a loner at times, but she works shifts, so we wouldn't constantly be under each other's feet.

Maybe she wants the company? I think as long as you do your share of everything and respect that she will need her own space occasionally, it could be win win.

I'm so sorry, I've only now seen your reply! ... It's such a hard decision isn't it. My mum would love us up there I know that for sure but I'd definitely miss my space ... I think I might just take the plunge, set myself and my children up for a fresh start, then find a new place ... Good Luck with your decision

I moved back in with my parents after becoming an SM. It gave me space to retrain and also to look for a nice flat near them. My son loved it and so did my parents. Mum was a bit bossy with me but i think I was a bit teenagery at moving back (was only 21). I think it could be very positive for you all, especially the kids. But it depends how you get on with your mum.

I would love to go and live with my mum again. My mental health and living situation is at rock bottom. Quite possibly won't actually have a home for much longer. My mum lives in a retirement flat. If she had her own hone me and dd would be there like a shot. It would be my choice but also hers.

Knittedfrog I really hope your situation improves! I'm so sorry to read that ... Is there anyone you can contact that may be able to help?

Thank you Dee.
I'm not entitled to any help but have a good friend with a spare room if I need it. Really don't want to put on her though. I guess we all have trying times but having a secure home would make everything else a lot easier to cope with.

I moved back home before my little girl was born as my mental health was awful and still is but having my parents by my side has been a huge help and my daughter has a wonderful bond with them both. Admittedly we all still clash at times but compared to how I was when I was with my ex there is a big difference. I still live there now 2 years later but I wouldn’t change it for the world, I don’t like being alone so the evenings are much nicer being here as we all spend time together once little one has gone to bed.

I have an 8 year old son and have moved back in with my mum and stepdad after splitting with my ex. I was privately renting, paying £1100pm, paying bills and trying to repay debts, so couldn't save any money.

I've been here for 8 months, have cleared almost all of my debts and have started to save. My plan is to stay here until the end of the year when I should have enough for a deposit for a flat or house outside London.

I share a room with my son so it can be challenging at times, plus my mum suffers with depression so can sometimes be withdrawn and appear rude. But I know it'll be worth it in the end. I'll be able to start a new life with my son in our own home with a clean slate.

So I'd recommend moving in with your mum, if you can. Just think this time next year, your finances will be much better and your mental health may improve too, I know mine has.

Thank you so much for your experiences It's really helped with my decision. I'm going to move home with my two sons until I'm financially secure and have healed emotionally from a very trying point in my life.