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[LadyRobertaMeserole]

Since Ex and I split he's gradually seen the DC less and less - he tells everyone I stop them seeing him. Not true and they're teens so he could arrange things directly with them anyway.

A friend of Ex was picking up DS1 tomorrow from a club he does with friend's son but plans have changed, so I messaged Ex's friend saying thanks, but no need.

I don't think I've ever messaged the friend before and he has obviously read it wrongly and assumed it was from Ex. So he replied saying No problem and he hoped Ex wasn't being stopped from seeing DC over Christmas .
Over the last month I've repeatedly asked Ex when he wants to see the DC over Christmas and he's refused to arrange anything!

I so want to reply and set the record straight but it would be really petty wouldn't it?

I’d reply. Petty or not, it’s your chance to have a say.

I'd reply. Men like this make me sick. My sons dad has chosen to not be in his life. Its been over 3 years now and of course its because I have made it impossible. Absolute bollocks. At first I put my story across just to make it known there really are two sides to every story. But after a while I could no longer give a shit if people believed these lies.
I hope you are Ok. You know the truth

Not petty at all. I'd tell him.

Not petty at all. I’m not one for airing my dirty laundry in public, but I’d never lie either. I’d be putting said friend in the picture as to what exactly has been going on

I’d reply, in UPPERCASE no less OP, what a Dick

Definitely reply. Absolutely no problem Ex seeing DC any time.

My ex pulls the same shit and it’s so annoying that people believe his lies. I would send back a short message to say your ex chooses not to spend more time with your children and you find it hurtful when people believe his lies blaming you. I wouldn’t get into a conversation about it and fully expect the other person to think you’re the one whose lying. My ex gets his cousin to drop the kids back off at mine at 8am every Monday morning. I offered for him to keep them as long as he wants on Christmas Eve (he doesn’t work on a Monday) and he’s decided to get his cousin to drop them off at 10am ‘because it’s so great he’ll get a lie in’. They’re such assholes. X

With the collective permission of MN, I've replied.
Just factually, that I've repeatedly offered but he's refused.

I mostly don't care what he says to other people - those who believe him, I don't care about; those I care about, don't believe him.
But to hear 'directly' from someone else the narrative he's been putting about really p'd me off.

Well done OP

Well done OP. Good for you for sticking up for yourself. X

I remember people would come up to me and say how could you not allow such a nice man to see his own child. The anger inside was unreal. But I just said if that's what he is comfortable telling people is the truth to hide behind what is actually the truth then I will let him have that. One day he will have alot to answer for

Well done OP

My ex attacked me, the police were called and he was arrested. He's been diagnosed with depression a week earlier. I found out he's been telling people that I'd kicked him out because of his mental health issue 😡

Has he responded?

@WhoKnewBeefStew I'm am fuming for you 😠😠😠

Well done op.

As a friend pointed out to me . No man has ever said I don’t see my kids because I am a shit dad