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Where will you \do you spend christmas

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Fairyfly · 01/09/2004 07:15

Sorry i know it's early for this but i am getting nervous already. It was so bad last year (first one alone) that i obviously want to enjoy myself this time. What do the rest of you do, just spend it with the kids, get away, parents, family, friends?

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Freckle · 01/09/2004 08:03

We always spend Christmas Day alone at home, just me, dh and the boys. We then usually go to my parents on Boxing Day and I have a day when I invite all grandparents here. Not sure what will happen this year as my parents have just moved to a much smaller house (bungalow) and are having building work done to it. I doubt Mum will be able to cope with us, plus my two sisters and their families, which is what she usually does.

jampot · 01/09/2004 08:15

I spend Christmas at home with my dh and 2 children. I have catered for both my sisters (together and separate) and my inlaws on several Christmases and only once had a return invitation from my twin sister so now we just spend it at home pleasing ourselves. Try to get together with sisters on boxing day for games & buffet style food (and drink)! To me the children make Christmas so we tend to go with what they want to do (within reason).

pixiefish · 01/09/2004 08:21

My parents. I've always gone there- when I met dh he joined me- then we pop to his family in the pm. This year he wants to spend it at home but i've said no way- my parents are only up the road and I'm not depriving them of seeing their granddaughter on Christmas Day. Apart for which we'll only be there a couple of hours.

vict17 · 01/09/2004 08:25

Isn't Fairyfly asking for lone parents?! You've all mentioned dh's

jampot · 01/09/2004 08:29

Sorry!!!

I think if I was on my own I'd still spend it at home with my children and get together with others probably on Christmas evening (if they were available after me snubbing people on Christmas evening for several years )

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Fairyfly · 01/09/2004 08:31

Right thats it, 4 months to find a husband

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vict17 · 01/09/2004 08:34

What did you do last year Fairyfly? Could you go away to a nice cottage with the kids perhaps?

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Fairyfly · 01/09/2004 08:39

In the morning i behaved like a proper mother and pretended to be happy for the kids, then i drank a bottle of vodka, told everyone to piss off, cried a lot, looked slightly manic for my relatives, snogged
random men, cottage probably safer, on a remote island

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vict17 · 01/09/2004 08:43

You poor thing. Do people usualy invite you over or do you have to entertain them all? Lock the vodka in the garden shed

Fizog · 01/09/2004 08:48

FairyFly, last year I invited myself round my parents. I go over Christmas Eve and stay there, get up with dd Christmas Morning and open all our presents. It's nice because christmas isn't the same unless you've got kids in the house so my folks really enjoyed it last year as well. Last year I went home boxing day morning and dd went to her dads for a few hours boxing day afternoon which gave me some time to myself.

It was really nice actually, I'm looking forward to it this year

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Fairyfly · 01/09/2004 08:49

No i am fine, i don't look like a stunned rabbit anymore, champagne this year.
I visit other people, don't really want to entertain on my own too much hard work. Just can't decide where or whom, some couples drive you a bit mental around Christmas, i think its the only day they kiss.
I have to make a decision, it is very good in a way to not have to consult with a man, all my own way.

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ggglimpopo · 01/09/2004 08:49

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pesme · 01/09/2004 08:52

Last year I was too pregnant to go to my parents and couldn't face the inlaws so pretended we had friends from abroad staying and had a lovely day just the 2 of us. Our friends from spain come round on boxing day to enact a christmas meal so we could have photographic evidence. This year I am going to my parents cos thats what I always do. Both my sisters adn my aunt all refuse to go to inlaws which is abit mean but better than going and looking miserable cos we would rather be with our family.

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Fairyfly · 01/09/2004 08:53

I was thinking of, parents, sister, brothers ,or friends house or just getting away the three of us.
love the sound of the prague adventure

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libb · 01/09/2004 09:00

you don't want a husband - they can be trouble.

You are more than welcome to come with us to my parents - so long as you don't laugh at dad's gigantic plastic snowman that lights up in the middle of rural ruddy Norfolk. Why?! no-one is there to see the tat. Also the daily bottle of vodka is compulsory in our house and no-one is allowed to go to bed without arguing with a loved one. (just kidding, just about). Sound appealing?

Papillon · 01/09/2004 09:00

Christmas for me is also not something I look forward too. Wot with all my family the other side of the world it is a very quiet day.

ggglimpopo · 01/09/2004 09:03

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Fairyfly · 01/09/2004 09:04

I think i'd fit right in Libb, if last year is anything to go by

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Hulababy · 01/09/2004 09:13

DH and I always spend Christmas Day on our own with DD (did before she was born too). We then have my parents, brother and sister (and bf?) plus PILs, DH's grandparents (sometimes) and his brother and wife - all depending on who is here - over from lunchtime onwards on Boxing Day. We also visit both sets of parents on Christmas Eve too.

libb · 01/09/2004 09:19

I'll even let you take the mick out of Dad's miniature railway!

Seriously though, I really hope you do something that makes you happy. I have always liked your threads and know what a cruddy time you've had this year - you deserve much better and I am sure you will have happier times very soon xx

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Fairyfly · 01/09/2004 09:22

I want to have a good time, do something you wouldn't do with a partner, i know i won't be single forever so really want to enjoy it while i can. Quite inspiring popo, maybe i will look at prices. As for new year, i spent it with two gay couples and two married couples last year, never again. Two of them were actually rubbing noses all night, i felt violent.
Party for me, with lots of single men and mistletoe

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Fairyfly · 01/09/2004 09:25

Thanks Libb, that is lovely of you,i hope you have a fantastic time too( tell you what you can look at my dads cigarette card collection in return, oh and he does a fabulous sword dance, easter?)

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libb · 01/09/2004 09:28

sounds good to me - I'll bring the vodka.

libb · 01/09/2004 09:51

I killed your thread - sorry

lou33 · 01/09/2004 13:12

From 16 until I was about 25, I spent it with boyfriends mainly, including one Christmas in Goa. From 25 until 32 I spent it with my sister, her family and my mum. Since my mum died we have spent it with my sister, but this Christmas we will be in Thailand.

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