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YBeloev · 10/12/2018 09:48

Hello gonna start short - basically im worried about my partner and her baby girl and i want to ask a few questions.
Long story: My gf, s EX partner who has refused to be on his daughters birth certificate and refused to do anything with her, refused to see her (got all screenshots from conversations) where he is saying he doesn't want to have anything with the poor little girl.
He is now telling my gf that he wants a dna test and if he is the father he will take her to court for parentel rights.
Basically he is doing that to scare my girlfriend so she stops the Csa taking money from him....
Umm he still is not interested in the child in whatsoever, he has 2 more girls from 2 different mothers witch my gf only knew about 1...

Anyway the main question is, does my gf have to be worried?
Can he do anything even after all the proof my gf has on her phone...? That he did not want to be involved in thr little girls life
By the way she is 19 months old now...

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NGC2017 · 10/12/2018 13:15

no real advice (sorry) but I have a situation where my DS dad hasnt been in his life for over 3 years now. He is little over 4 years old. He had sporadic contact from when he was 9 months old then one day told me it was where he drew the line, he was choosing his girlfriend and would no longer be in contact. It has been that way ever since, not calls, emails, visits, birthday or christmas presents. He pays maintenance but only as it is a deduction of earnings order from the CMS. Sadly he is on the BC.
I was threatened with court, denied parentage etc. He made my life hell but he did none of it. It was to scare me and for a long time I let him and believe he could have such a say. I got free legal advice (30 mins) where she told me that she didn't think he would follow through with anything and to this day has done nothing he said he would.
My only worry now is that I worry about him being on the BC. As I know if anything happened to me his Dad would have automatic rights. But I just pray common sense prevails as he hasnt been in contact for so so long now.
I am sorry for what your partner is going through. He is probably trying to scare her as she is going for his pocket to financially support their child.
Like my DS dad, he has other kids that he never sees. Sadly I learnt the hard way and learnt for myself. Knowing that should have made me realise he would never actually act of anything he was threatening. If they dont want to pay maintenance the chances are they aren't going to want to pay out hundred, likely thousands on lengthy court processes when you have proof of his intentions with the child

Lonecatwithkitten · 10/12/2018 15:59

If he is doing it to try and prevent going through the CMS not a chance in hell he will pay the money to go to court to get contact.

ghostsandghoulies · 10/12/2018 17:27

Even if her ex was 1 of 100 men, she wouldn't lose her rights as a parent.

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