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Just a moan

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TheOrigFV45 · 04/12/2018 15:45

I am part of a book club. The only way I can go if I am not hosting is to get a sitter for DS. That's fine. It's the life of a single parent and I have some lovely sitters.

We are all on a whatsapp group (6 of us). I am the only single parent and they all have partners who mind their kids when they go out, or book club dates are arranged for when they know their OHs are around. Again, that's fine and the way it is.

What pisses me off, is if their plans go tits up eg OH needs to work away and they post on the group - all the others start rallying around to help them out. Suggestions, how they can help etc etc.

I am sure I am being sensitive - we all live in our own worlds, but it just seems that they are lacking the awareness that EVERY TIME I want to go out I have to get things in place and it kind of stings a bit to read "oh, it's so hard when OH is away".

Yeah, I'm being sensitive, but please allow me the moan here in the Lone Parents place.

I've muted the sodding convo.

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Starlight456 · 04/12/2018 17:06

I think the biggest mistake is to say nothing at all.
Drop in imagine never having oh at all. That’s my world.

I don’t mean every time anything is mentioned but so you are not forgotten

MummyAndSon17 · 08/12/2018 10:13

I'm a lone parent and all my friends who are with the dc fathers always moan to me about how they need a break etc. Even though they go out every Friday Confused
I've only been away from my son a handful of times. 2 of which were to go to health appointments. So yeah it's okay to have a moan about them lol. I tell my friends aswell that what they say to the oh is silly and they should walk in my shoes for a week. Then they'd understand. If they're your real friends they would understand and not kick up a fuss about it

fluffums · 11/12/2018 23:39

my experience is people are insensitive and don't necessarily think. They go on and on about minor issues or inconveniences of their well supported family life forgetting what it's like to be a LP with no support. It does feel like a slap in the face.

I've had friends moaning about similar... I would certainly pull them up about it without being too combative.

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