How did you adjust to being a part-time mum?

[FloElla7]

Hello lovelies.
I'm just at the beginning of the separation process. I wondered what your BTDT advice might be. Although I know it's for the 'best' for me and STBXH, and in many ways I feel positive about that, the loss of being a full time Mum is killing me. I feel heartbroken about not having my kids with me all the time. What advice have you got about coming to terms with this?

I've got a list of "things" I'd like to do for myself at weekends etc and I might change my working pattern so I'm late home in nights its just me, so I've got some practical tips, but would welcome more and also particularly looking for emotional coping. How do you do it without breaking down?

would you really want them all the time with no break? i have my kids all the time as their dad is absent and i would love a break.
is it going to be 50:50?

Yes, looks like it. He's determined (at the moment at least) for 50:50 and he works from home so on paper at least he looks more available for after school etc.

I know it's probably a bit of a pity post, just leaving the kids (I'm the one moving out) feels like the worst part by a million years.

It's good your ex actually wants to be involved. So you have agreed to 50-50? How old is your child?

If you have been the main carer why are you moving out? They'll feel more stable staying in their home at least for now. You're taking them with you aren't you?

Second what happy said.
If you've been their main carer (is that right) why are you having to move out?

I was the one that moved out and we share 50/50 custody. I just couldn't afflrd the house payments alone and he could.

I don't honestly feel like a part time mom. I still constantly think about and worry about my kid, my life revolves around him still.

But being a "part-time" mom has also made me a better mom. I have time now to take care of myself, relax, read a book, do things like run errands and do laundry when I don't have my son. So when I do have him all of my focus is on him. We spend more quality time together now, because all the chores you have to get done can actually wait! I think we make the most out of our time together and it's brought us closer in so many ways.