Dealing with alcoholic ex makes me anxious

[Eesha]

Hi all,

Not sure if this is right place to post but hoping someone has some tips. My ex is an alcoholic, lost his job months back and pays no maintenance. I felt sorry for him and have tried to keep things amicable but at least every week he seems to be drunk over a couple of days. I'm finding I feel really anxious when I see he is drunk plus he also rages at me, and now asking whether he can have our children stay over. They are babies and I don't feel comfortable with it but he always seems to ask when drunk and looking to argue or get a reaction. How best can I manage it, I feel so anxious even though I'm out of the relationship, it's like he is controlling me from afar.

I use evening block my alcoholic is belugerent drunk from about 6:30 in the evening I see no point listening it trying to get a word in edgeways. do I use block and another app to hide the block notification. I've categorically said NC when drinking. They don't listen or care because that's what they do.

if he's angling for contact, tell him to go to court for it is til then it's a no They are unlikely to go to court because that's money better spent on booze.

I've experienced the exact same thing with my ex.
The moment I found out he had been drinking during the day around my child I stopped contact immediately. Of course it's still stressful for me to this day but at least I know my child is safe. Do what's best for you and your child!!