EOW: who decides timetable?

[Dhalandchips]

Just that really. I'm the resident parent. I work crazy shifts, he doesn't. Who should decide the timetable for the weekends? I'm relatively new to this but have sent him a timetable for the weekends until March. He can't do one of them as he's going on holiday (without the DCs again - but that's another story) so I've rearranged them to cater for this. Now he's querying another weekend. I'm already pissed off with it. But I'm the one who has to arrange work (night shifts involved) around these dates. I cant keep mucking my boss about. Should I just tell him these are the dates and there's no room for negotiation? Thanks. (That turned into a bit of a rant, sorry!)

Ps, there's no court involvement, it's all informal.

I'd tell him there no room for negotiation, your going to work not for a night out. You've moved things around for his holiday he should be great full x

DH's ex used to give us a calendar with her weekends for an entire year. I don't think that's unreasonable if you're trying to plan work around it. If you are working and your existing pattern falls on a weekend he can't do then he needs to arrange alternative childcare.

Thanks, your replies are appreciated. It wouldn't be so bad apart from the fact that he makes out on FB that I'm preventing him from seeing them (which is cock) and what a poor soul he is being separated from hi darlings. It's him who's always buggering off here and there!

As much as possible keep it to alternate pattern so there can't be lots of discussion. I'm RP and do a schedule for the year. Ex then tells me if there are specific issues and we rejig. It's not perfect.. He doesn't seem to realise that we both have to compromise not just me but that goes with the territory. Just keep it as business like as possible