If your ex is absent...

[CandyCreeper]

Does their family have any involvement with your child(ren)?

No . Their choice

Same, no completey their choice and I was never going to force anyone to be around. Their loss

My DD's absent fathers parents found me on Facebook and got in touch about wanting to meet but the tales I was told about this woman weren't very nice and they live a fair distance away so thought it was best to keep everyone at his side at bay. If he had a relationship with his daughter he could of facilitated a relationship with his parents.

thanks for the replies, just worried about my kids having no contact with the whole other side of their family. exes parents arent alive but he has a sister that has never once asked to see them but then i guess i cant expect much from her when their own father chooses not to see them.

No thank god their vile

Sadly no, my dd reached out to her 24 year old sister who responded once, then got bored and no other contact for the last 8 years.

My dcs dad walked out in 2005 and not seen hide nor hair of him or his immediate family, no. But I’m close to my (ex?) SIL (his brothers ex wife) and their children so my dc get to see and speak to their cousins

My DD's have a great relationship with their paternal grandparents & aunt and the extended family - sleepovers, days out, weddings, birthday parties etc but haven't seen their father in 12 years.

I think it helps that his parents & sister don't have a relationship with him either though & he doesn't attend family events so there's no awkward chances of bumping into him.

The girls do have a half brother that their father has no relationship with either who doesn't see the grandparents & aunt... they'd love to have a relationship but the child's mother doesn't want them to have one.

Nope.

Half of my ex's family see my DS and have done since he was born, the other half decided not to have any contact (because my ex didn't).

No. Ds has an adult half sister in her 30s, whose only concern seems to be not losing half of her inheritance.

Nope. I was immediately deleted from their lives. There was a brief spell I was still connected on Facebook to one of his sister's. She tagged the OW on her posts declaring she was "her new sister". I disconnected myself from that, so painful after 10 years together.

I thought his mum might want to see pictures of her grandson so sent her a birthday card with photos - no response.

I figure they are superficial people and no loss to me or DS.

My oldest DDs (14) family have nothing to do with her because her dad didnt want to be in her life. I will never understand but some people are ultimately selfish and self absorbed. I have always tried to look for the positives in her life and encouraged her to do the same. It has affected her emotionally and this makes me angry. She made contact with him herself through facebook at one point and she was rejected as his wife to be wasnt happy and in his words 'wanted to have his first child' she didnt know my DD existed.

Yes. They were horrified at his conduct, always pleasant enough to me and had (and still have) good relationships with the DC.

I have rather gone off them, given their responses to some of his latest antics, but we can be civil and it's good for the DC.

Not really. They've never once asked to see them, I have asked if they would like to see them and they've taken me up on it a few times in 2 years. I'm not asking any more, shouldn't have to. No texts or calls asking after them, no requests to see them, so I'm not asking then doing the 40 mile round trip to facilitate it too. They're a toxic bunch of twats anyway so it's no real loss.

Yes as ex has no contact with them either. Bit rocky to start but ok now.

Yes, cards and gifts for birthdays and Xmas. Nothing else though. They're not local anyway so it's not a massive snub.

Ex lives close by but no contact since pregnancy his only child he's 46. My son is 11. I was heartbroken at the cruelty especially as it was a planned child. I have since got over it but I will never be the trusting person I was before, never seriously dated since. I just couldn't trust again.

Absent father has missed out my son is gifted and extremely bright. On the plus side my sons father did the right thing, he could never put his child first and think about the child's needs before his. He would never tolerate the commitment I have made towards his achievements. If he was anything like he was to me my sons self esteem would be crushed and he would be dreadfully unhappy.

So I'm thankful to absent father for staying away.

No, his parents are dead and he is NC with his siblings- maybe they should’ve been a clue to what type of person he was!

Yes, my son’s father made the decision to leave me when I was 5 weeks pregnant and my son is 22 months now. His mum, dad, step dad & step mum, his sister and her husband are all involved in DS’ life. Just not him, by his choice

No. They refuse to acknowledge that my son exists but the whole family have always had lots of contact with his dads other child, who regularly still stays with family members.