Overnight stays - do I have the right to know where my DS is?

[sanityisamyth]

Hello all,

My DS father was having regular overnight contact with DS (who's 4) up until the middle of August, when he texted me to say that he's separated with his GF and is homeless so was unable to have DS overnight. I have no idea and don't care where he was living but he was still seeing DS from 8am Saturday morning until about 5pm that evening. Last night I asked him for an extra £70 maintenance to cover the weeks that he didn't have DS overnight, which he paid instantly.

However, he's now e-mailed me to say that he can now have DS overnight again. I still have no idea where he's living but I'm concerned where DS would be sleeping. I need to reply to his e-mail about dates for contact for Nov/Dec but am I within my rights to ask where DS would be staying?

Thanks

Of course you are! Ask him for the address. Is there a reason why you think he won't want to tell You?

Yes - I've had a solicitor's letter from his when were divorced stating that I have no right to know where DS is, or what he's doing with him, when it's his contact time.

Unless he HAS to declare it, he won't tell me.

Unfortunately it is true your ex doesn't need to tell you where he lives and where your son would be sleeping. Do you trust your ex? If so don't worry about it.

i think there is a huge difference between telling you what he got up to and where he is sleeping....Given he has been homeless i think you have every reason to know the home address of ex or where DC will be staying..

Do you get legal advice also.. just because it is in a solicitors letter it doesn't mean you have to accept it.

I don't really trust him. I think he's been staying at his mums and with friends of his (they were mutual friends of ours until he had an emotional relationship with the 18 year old daughter when he was 30). I know he still takes DS there on his contact days. He feeds him junk food constantly and never brushes his teeth.

I've asked him. What's the worst that can happen? Not holding out much hope.