Separated two years ago. EX got himself an apartment as close to his work as possible, so very expensive rent (expensive city) but very small, one bed plus tiny den/box room. He only volunteered to have one each of our two DC (teens) one night each per mo. They have to sleep on the couch when they are there. He did not even have a toothbrush for them the first few month so I had to send.
I have listened to him almost every week for over a year complaining his apartment is too small to have the DC there. Complaining he's got no where for them to sleep when he was the one to rent it out/ choose the place based on what was convenient for him, or he could order a pull out bed to be delivered or something.
He got really mad last weekend because eldest DC doesn't have long pjs (eldest dc hasn't worn long pjs in years, doesn't like them). Apparently I am supposed to provide them for them to sleep in over there. I said why don't you buy a pair tokeep over there for him? It devolved into an argument where I ended up stating he doesn't want any evidence of DC in his apartment while son was standing on the other side of the door!
Not proud of myself but I feel like he drove me to it with his ridiculousness. I guess I am just venting here about this awful relationship....tried so hard to keep my mouth shut in front of the kids. Feel like they will figure it out anyway, that their dad doesn't wan them there, but still hurts...