School Advice

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My husband has recently left me, we have a 5 year old child together.
My husband is teacher at the school our child attends. He sees our daughter all the time in school.
I have also found out that he is having an affair with another teacher at that school.
I want to move my daughter to another school.
My husband will not like this.
Do you think I’m right to want to move my daughter? How can I show is the best interest for my daughter to move her?

I can absolutely understand why you would want to move her, but is it really in her best interests. She really needs stability at this time and changing schools is not going to help that.
I have been in a very similar situation, keeping going into school was very, very hard, but it was the best thing for my DD.

Legally - as he has PR he has a say in what school the children go to. If he doesn’t want the change you could have a fight on your hands.

Mortally - is a different story.

How do the children feel about moving school? Is this about your feelings or them?

As tough as it is for you do you really think adding more change and instability will help her?

Certainly make it clear that what happens out of school and in school should be kept separate (which they should be anyway) but don’t put your anger in the way of what is needed

No, I don't think it's in her best interests, and I don't think you're right.

Your reasons appear to be that he will see her a lot (i.e. more than you) and that hes having an affair with another teacher. Obviously, his affair is wrong. But there is no risk of that affecting your child's schooling - those teachers will not be behaving in an inappropriate way in the school. So your child will be oblivious to that relationship. And you certainly shouldn't move her to stop her seeing her dad so much - that's hurting your child to punish your ex.

Uprooting your child would take her away from her friends, and a familiar environment. It would be highly unsettling at a time when everything else in her life is changing. Please don't do that to her.

I understand that you're angry and hurting. But, in everything that you do, you need to very carefully think about what is truly better for your daughter, rather than what youd be doing for yourself or to punish your ex.

I think you need to separate your feelings and what is right for your dd.

You have every right to feel angry if as I read it he was having an affair when you were together but . He is still her dad . She has lost him at home ( no putting blame here) so it may well be a comfort he is at school every day