First time single mom - worries

[SinglemomOf1]

Hello everyone! Ive been lurki g for a long time and decided to create an account. Im still in my 20s and have a baby boy who is under 1. His dad left and recently I found out hes got a girlfriend and that she gave birth to a baby girl. So my son has a you ger half sister who is nearly 2 month old now (my son is 10months) I find it easy to take care of my son. I work part time. Im a good money saver and very organised. Keep everything clean and cook everything is fine but I feel so sad that his dad left. He said he will be here for him and he vanished. Just blocked me and didnt say anything. On top of that his family ignores me and our son whenever they see me. I feel so heartbroken. Why did this happen to me? He is acting so happy on instagram. Saying how he is a great dad and loves his daughter. One of my friends dm him and asked him dont you remember you have a son too and he blocked her. I feel like he regrets his son and hates us. What will I tell my son when he asks where his dad is?

You sound like you are doing amazing op

Unfortunately you cannot force people to be involved in ur sons life, only thing I can say is it's their loss. Try not to let it bother you, trust me you will get over it and realise all the great times they are missing out on and how u get all they great times with him.

Thank you Im very worried of what the future holds. Right now my son is ok and very happy but Im worried when he starts asking who is his dad and where he is? I dont know what I would say. Im afraid I will cry infront of him and that’s something I dont want him to see.

As time goes on the anger will kick in and you won't be as upset about it. As long as you've tried to get ex to see ur son then there isn't much else you can do op. He might never ask where he is, or when he does might be old enough to understand he left but u always kept the door open for him to see son (consistently, I can't deal with showing up when suits them).

Yes exactly. Yeah we didnt even argue when he left. To be honest when i saw that he blocked me I felt so relieved that this is off my shoulders. I dont stress as much. Cant change him and make him see his son. Its just stupid and it makes me angry how he was saying he cant wait for our son to start walking so he can play ball with him and then he did that but oh well its life I guess maybe its for a good reason

A few things . This is about your ex’s behaviour not yours. My ds’s dad hasn’t seen him since he was 3. I agree with pp . It is like a grieving process you go through all the emotions then come out the other side.

Don’t worry at this stage how to answer him about dad you are a long way from that and will be stronger by then.

I would unfollow / block him on instagram. It will not make you feel any better.

You are also entitled to maintenance regardless of what he thinks . Go to the cms. It is money he legally owes for the upkeep of his Ds.

Lastly . My Ds is now 11. Despite his family and him ignoring my Ds, I am proud of everything we have done and it really is there loss

Oh wow I feel for you! That's horrible. He is blocking you cause he can't deal with himself. I would go Psycho on him, but really it seems like you are doing well! The sadness is 100% natural. I would recommend getting some motivational audio books to listen too when you are feeling down.

So many amazing and successful single mums out there. Who eventually found good partners and father figure to have a real family with. Your son will be happy too if you are!